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Is it weird to want a relationship first before diving into dynamics?

I've tried the "Pay to Play" and (very long post made very short) it brought short-term thrills, but was ultimately unfulfilling in the long term.

So I would agree that for me (as well as for you ...

Thu Aug 22, 2024 4:07 am • 6 Replies • 2228 Views

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Steellover

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Generally Speaking

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Is it weird to want a relationship first before diving into dynamics?

142

Under Consideration

I'll draw a parallel to vanilla dating:

I would take it as, I see a person to whom I'm casually attracted. I want to get to know them and spend time with that person, to see if the chemistry is re ...

Tue Aug 20, 2024 5:27 am • 7 Replies • 3035 Views

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Steellover

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Lifestyle BDSM

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Under Consideration

143

genderfication

There are certain topics that are going to be divisive. There is a recent thread where a person is seeking not only a specific gender, but a specific ethnicity along with that gender. I am neither o ...

Tue Aug 20, 2024 5:16 am • 70 Replies • 13762 Views

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Steellover

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Generally Speaking

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genderfication

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Re: genderfication

Do you see genderfication here? Are you concerned about it? What do you think should be done?

Honestly, I have not noticed it. Maybe I just haven't been sensitive or aware enough to notice it ...

Tue Aug 20, 2024 2:44 am • 70 Replies • 13762 Views

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Steellover

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Generally Speaking

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genderfication

145

Your Turn Ladies

I don’t answer questions that perpetuate gentrification. It’s disrespectful to the philosophies that BDSM were built on. Old guard came from the leather community to combat these types of bigotry.
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Sun Aug 18, 2024 8:55 pm • 33 Replies • 6936 Views

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Steellover

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Generally Speaking

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Your Turn Ladies

146

meaningless tasks

If a dominant assigns a sub task like, say, "alphabetize the guitar strings," or "Sort the potato chips according to size" then it's either a way of saying "You're bothering me; go find something mea ...

Wed Jul 31, 2024 2:30 am • 38 Replies • 7492 Views

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Steellover

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Generally Speaking

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meaningless tasks

147

Perversion Discussion

Short answer is no.
More detailed answer: Perversion is when your sexual desires get so out of your control that they impact other people around them.

Or, any activities that, as explained, invol ...

Thu Jul 25, 2024 2:59 am • 4 Replies • 1513 Views

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Steellover

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Generally Speaking

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Perversion Discussion

148

Changing Kink Desires

Like Mera x2 said, I can understand the "Binging and Purging" aspect of being submissive and kinky, and I've talked about this before- "Binging and Purging" meaning, being periodically overcome with g ...

Tue Jul 23, 2024 2:48 am • 8 Replies • 2091 Views

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Steellover

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Generally Speaking

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Changing Kink Desires

149

Is it needed to tell me that you're a nice guy?

okay, so I guess that makes sense. It's like, we do try to "do the right thing," but yet, I see your point that if you are actually having to TELL people, "Hey I'm a nice guy," then the obvious react ...

Sat Jul 20, 2024 7:13 am • 40 Replies • 10749 Views

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Steellover

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Is it needed to tell me that you're a nice guy?

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Is it needed to tell me that you're a nice guy?

This thread is the classic examples of the "Mixed Messages" a lot of guys get.

On one hand, we are told we are supposed to be gentlemen, be a nice guy and treat a woman gallantly and with kindnes ...

Sat Jul 20, 2024 3:06 am • 40 Replies • 10749 Views

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Steellover

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Generally Speaking

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Is it needed to tell me that you're a nice guy?