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Submission: is it someone's choice or their nature?

I think all of us are a product of how we are raised, and the experiences that have shaped us as we grow. I think both have come into play with me, and made me heavily lean submissive when it comes t ...

Sat Apr 05, 2025 2:43 am • 21 Replies • 10011 Views

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Steellover

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Lifestyle BDSM

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Submission: is it someone's choice or their nature?

d/s deffinitions

It is hard, and at least, takes practice, to be a good sub. Practice, trust, and courage- and finding that person to trust so you can put yourself in both a physically and emotionally compromising po ...

Mon Mar 31, 2025 6:25 am • 5 Replies • 1236 Views

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Steellover

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Generally Speaking

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d/s deffinitions

Being Naked

What Blondie said about being in your dominants control, about baring your body and soul- total surrender and trust, well, that is what I have been chasing all my life- that kind of connection.

Sun Mar 30, 2025 3:18 am • 22 Replies • 5832 Views

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Steellover

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Generally Speaking

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Being Naked

What's worst?

Well, you do at least give a warning, and for that reason I respect, and agree with, everything you are saying. You let them know, and if they don't get it then, it's on them.

And yes, as mentio ...

Sat Mar 29, 2025 6:39 am • 21 Replies • 4440 Views

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Steellover

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Generally Speaking

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What's worst?

Can we normalize not using suicide/self harm as a threat?

It is manipulation, and is called being a drama queen. I have no patience for that kind of thing. If someone was really serious about taking such a drastic step, then often, they won't actually say ...

Sat Mar 29, 2025 2:49 am • 10 Replies • 1593 Views

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Steellover

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Generally Speaking

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Can we normalize not using suicide/self harm as a threat?

What's worst?

If you are talking about specifically on this site; I think being blocked without discernible reason bothers me more. Because then, I always wonder what I did, or what I said, that upset them to the ...

Thu Mar 27, 2025 2:33 am • 21 Replies • 4440 Views

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Steellover

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Generally Speaking

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What's worst?

Lesson of the day

I agree with that sentiment. I would argue that my submissiveness is also a personality trait....however, when people talk about "Skills" or "Experience" they may mean a couple things. One of them i ...

Tue Mar 25, 2025 2:55 am • 3 Replies • 2238 Views

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Steellover

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Femdom

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Lesson of the day

How did you get started.

I suppose, then, on that note I was always submissive, but there were certainly a few experiences along the way that shaped me to be this way.

I was always raised to be attentive to other people' ...

Tue Mar 18, 2025 3:06 am • 21 Replies • 9511 Views

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Steellover

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Absolute Beginners

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How did you get started.

A vetting guide/questionnaire

These are ALL very valid questions for people to narrow down what they are seeking, and to avoid wasting time when you get into it and realize that you are both seeking very different things from the ...

Sat Mar 15, 2025 2:43 am • 2 Replies • 2774 Views

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Steellover

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Absolute Beginners

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A vetting guide/questionnaire

Kinks: Into everything?

It is certainly a learning curve. A lot of people jump into it with tons of intense feelings- Sub frenzy you call it, but little knowledge or experience or even really knowing what they are seeking. ...

Thu Mar 06, 2025 3:48 am • 14 Replies • 3034 Views

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Steellover

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Generally Speaking

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Kinks: Into everything?