You are not experienced enough

This "dom" is taking advantage of your lack of experience. Be VERY careful about how he treats you. He sounds like the type that gives this lifestyle a bad name.

I, personally, have had severa ...

Sun Oct 10, 2021 5:04 am • 95 Replies • 36884 Views

How did you get or pick your screen(or lifestyle) name?

I originally picked the nic Giver of Pain. But I felt it sounded kind of weird. Then one night a sub called me Sir Pain. I liked it and the rest is history.

Sun Nov 22, 2020 10:07 am • 267 Replies • 105742 Views

Less attractive?

After reading your profile I think it fair to say that someone looked past your stretch marks and scars and found something beautiful in you. So stop worrying yourself about what you believe others w ...

Wed Apr 08, 2020 9:42 pm • 47 Replies • 19861 Views

Prep for play

I'll answer the latter first.

For me, Floggers (usually more than one set), single tails (usually more than one), paddles (again usually more than one), handcuffs, blindfolds, and some different le ...

Sat Nov 16, 2019 12:15 am • 8 Replies • 5294 Views

Ball busting and other erotica

I'm with @OwnerOperator on this one. Not only no but hell no!

Fri Nov 15, 2019 8:18 am • 10 Replies • 6739 Views

Orgasm Control

Orgasm control is not always about sex. Many the time I have been in a scene when the sub has requested to cum and I have denied her. Many subs do orgasm during a scene. Whether it is floggers, whi ...

Fri Nov 15, 2019 7:51 am • 9 Replies • 5193 Views

Long distance Dom/sub needs advice on keeping the fires going

I've been in this lifestyle for many years. I've tried long distance relationships in the early part of my time in the lifestyle and for me, they have never really worked out. Of course this was bef ...

Sat Nov 09, 2019 3:35 am • 12 Replies • 10967 Views

Less attractive?

When I was nine years old I was in a very bad car crash. I had my neck and right jaw broken and three TBI's (back then they were called major concussions). I looked so bad that when I went into my m ...

Fri Nov 08, 2019 5:42 am • 47 Replies • 19861 Views

BDSM Illegal in Iowa?

Actually, if you want to get right down to it, BDSM is illegal everywhere. Maybe Iowa has just passed legislation to declare BDSM itself illegal, but the truth of the matter is that anytime one perso ...

Tue Nov 05, 2019 9:18 am • 7 Replies • 4878 Views

On repeat in my head....

I know that "ghosting" can be painful. I know because I myself have been ghosted. I've been ghosted, on this site and several others, to the point that I've lost count. I've also become somewhat im ...

Mon Nov 04, 2019 11:25 am • 19 Replies • 7467 Views