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Teaching or Helping you Learn....

Do you think there is a difference between Teaching and Helping you Learn?

Particularity concerning the Lifestyle. I have my own view on this but would love to see what others think of it.

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Sat Jun 06, 2026 4:52 pm • 11 Replies • 1282 Views

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TopekaDom

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Lifestyle BDSM

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Teaching or Helping you Learn....

BDSM/Pride questions

My real question is what does the LGBTQ+ vanillas think of the kink lifestyle in particular. Would they approve of Pride related kink activities/merchandise or would they see it as a "corporate" gra ...

Thu Jun 04, 2026 11:21 pm • 4 Replies • 419 Views

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TopekaDom

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Lifestyle BDSM

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BDSM/Pride questions

My guess it would be the scammers looking for a way to appear "normal".

I haven't seen any yet, but then again I tend to scare off non AI people.

(which I find rather funny saying that)

Tue May 19, 2026 4:18 pm • 9 Replies • 670 Views

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TopekaDom

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Generally Speaking

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Anyone else feel like Dom/Sub/Switch labels just don't quite fit?

If you go take a look at fet anymore, you will see just about everyone seems to be shying away from using basic identifiers anymore.Just add the modifiers all the new kids do these days:

Sub-leanin ...

Sun May 17, 2026 11:06 pm • 15 Replies • 1467 Views

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TopekaDom

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Absolute Beginners

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Anyone else feel like Dom/Sub/Switch labels just don't quite fit?

I feel like you need to be a sub before being a dom

Way, Way, Way back in time, That was the "proper" was of getting started in the lifestyle.

One had to earn one's Leathers by being a sub to someone already in the lifestyle. Think of it as a a ...

Sun May 17, 2026 1:21 am • 16 Replies • 2108 Views

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TopekaDom

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Lifestyle BDSM

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I feel like you need to be a sub before being a dom

Must have toys

Alton Brown has a prefect answer to the question of "What is the best knife to use in the kitchen?"

"Whatever one feels good to you."

Same goes with sex toys. Nothing is a must have.

Wed Apr 29, 2026 1:36 pm • 12 Replies • 5838 Views

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TopekaDom

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Equipment & Toys

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Must have toys

Subs

What I find most annoying is ordering an Italian sub.....

and getting a meatball one instead.

Mon Apr 13, 2026 3:00 pm • 6 Replies • 1347 Views

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TopekaDom

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Absolute Beginners

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Subs

Misogyny kink ~ what’s your biggest pet peeve, as a Dom?

ps. Actually I don't hate sweet potatoes but for a very long time, it was not my favorite food. Still isn't but I don't hate them. 😁

Gawd, I do. Can't stand the smell or taste.

Sun Apr 12, 2026 7:19 pm • 8 Replies • 1387 Views

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TopekaDom

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Maledom

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Misogyny kink ~ what’s your biggest pet peeve, as a Dom?

I made that very point, and gained being called names for doing so.

From the OP?

That would explain why that profile no longer exists.

I figured it was a "gotcha" post but from a theory vie ...

Sun Apr 12, 2026 5:22 pm • 8 Replies • 1387 Views

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TopekaDom

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Maledom

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Misogyny kink ~ what’s your biggest pet peeve, as a Dom?

From a Lifestyle philosophy point, Misogamy presents an interesting subject:

Since there are those that practice such things as Race play and Religious play, Misogamy should fit right in one would ...

Sun Apr 12, 2026 3:47 pm • 8 Replies • 1387 Views

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TopekaDom

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Maledom

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Misogyny kink ~ what’s your biggest pet peeve, as a Dom?