What are your favorite BDSM erotic fiction novels?

Polarity, by Virginia Ford. It’s obvious she has lived the lifestyle, and it’s not senseless drivel like 50 shades. More like the thinking woman’s kink.

Thu Nov 19, 2020 9:19 pm • 33 Replies • 8511 Views

Is there such a role as a "toy"?

Everybody has their own kink, whether it be sadism, being a "toy", or whatever, but if it's not SAFE, SANE, and CONSENSUAL, it's not BDSM, it's abuse. Period. A sub's needs always come first.

Thu Aug 13, 2020 4:07 pm • 66 Replies • 20186 Views

Is there such a role as a "toy"?

Your words - "I care for this person, he has some issues. I believe the need to fix kicked in for me and that is why I tried so hard and so long."

Aside from the fact that what the two of you have ...

Thu Aug 13, 2020 12:33 am • 66 Replies • 20186 Views

Developing feelings

BDSM takes all the vanilla stuff you may be feeling and multiplies it by orders of magnitude. The highs are much higher, and the lows are much lower. All the senses and emotions tend to be heightene ...

Tue Aug 11, 2020 6:02 am • 26 Replies • 6131 Views

How did you get or pick your screen(or lifestyle) name?

I've always been a Dickens fan, and then ArtfulDodger popped up as a character in another one of my favorite books - Polarity, by Virginia Ford. I plagiarized the name shamelessly! BTW, Polarity is ...

Fri Aug 07, 2020 4:03 pm • 267 Replies • 95516 Views

Discouraged

I met my Dom/life partner that way. It took a long time, but we ultimately found each other. You just have to be prepared to kiss a lot of frogs before you find the prince!

Tue Jul 28, 2020 5:37 pm • 28 Replies • 7183 Views

What do you do for foreplay?

The biggest sexual organ we have is the brain. Have you tried visualizing/fantasizing what you wish this "attractive partner" would do with you? Don't censor your thoughts, just roll with it. I ca ...

Tue Jul 28, 2020 3:17 am • 13 Replies • 5520 Views

Red flags

There are so many red flags about that post, it sounds like a military parade in Beijing. That man is not a Dom, he's a sick predatory pervert. You don't just "bring children into the lifestyle." ...

Mon Jul 27, 2020 4:02 am • 35 Replies • 8280 Views

Online safety

Sadly, even a photo doesn't guarantee that the person is on the up-and-up. Some of the worst jerks I have met online have included photos, and I found myself very attracted to them until I got to kno ...

Thu Jul 23, 2020 2:28 pm • 12 Replies • 5083 Views

Does monogamy exist in the D/s world?

That's bullshit. It's a reflection of HIM, not the D/s lifestyle. But hey, let's face it - people are people; it doesn't matter what lifestyle you embrace - vanilla, kink, LGBTQ, or whatever, there ...

Wed Jul 22, 2020 12:17 am • 70 Replies • 24168 Views