Are you a submissive/dominant in all areas of life or primarily sexually?

You sound like an alpha submissive. Your words, "I am very assertive, take the lead, am very extrovert, and the idea of "serving" and "pleasing others" in a non-sexual context has hardly any appeal ...

Tue Jul 21, 2020 2:23 am • 41 Replies • 12313 Views

Reading Recommendations

Check out "Polarity", by Virginia Ford. It' s a great book, and it sounds like you might identify with the main character. It also deals with a lot of the pitfalls associated with finding the right ...

Mon Jul 20, 2020 7:07 pm • 3 Replies • 1930 Views

Recommendations please!

My fave is "Polarity" by Virginia Ford. It has been described as "the thinking woman's 50 Shades".

Sat Jul 18, 2020 1:02 am • 22 Replies • 7296 Views

Kinky Christian?

Regardless of your "flavor" of Christianity ( whether you subscribe to a particular denomination or have your own private beliefs and spirituality) or if you are a Bible literalist, there is nothing ...

Tue Jul 14, 2020 3:30 pm • 60 Replies • 29745 Views

An interesting insight about dom/sub relationships?

I don't care if you are a Dom, sub, or ordinary vanilla person, that level of rudeness is absolutely inappropriate and totally unappealing. She obviously knows nothing about the concept of (1) cust ...

Sun Jul 12, 2020 4:02 pm • 17 Replies • 6749 Views

Before or after??

That makes perfect sense to me. A superior Dom takes pleasure in his partner's pleasure.

Sat Jul 11, 2020 1:59 pm • 6 Replies • 2466 Views

Before or after??

I'm curious -- do you prefer cumming at the same time as your partner and sharing the orgasm, or cumming first and then being able to fully experience your partner's orgasm?

Sat Jul 11, 2020 2:07 am • 6 Replies • 2466 Views

newbie sub

To the Newbie wanting to start playtime this weekend -- I strongly suggest you and your Dom (or sub, however it works out) both read "Polarity", by Virginia Ford. It's a novel that deals with the goo ...

Thu Jul 09, 2020 7:10 pm • 21 Replies • 9258 Views

What are some non-sexual traits or things that turn you guys on?

Intellect. Sense of humor. Integrity. And oh yeah -- good dental hygiene (grey-green teeth are such a turn off!)

Thu Jul 09, 2020 4:20 pm • 119 Replies • 31803 Views

Run!

Run! Run far, far away! If he is bringing up collars and taunting you with it, he is punishing you mentally. One of the first rules of D/s is once a topic has been clarified - most especially if th ...

Thu Jul 02, 2020 2:10 am • 29 Replies • 10505 Views