Call or not

What was your negotiation?

Then if you are concerned- break that and write saying you are concerned.

Thu Sep 08, 2022 1:33 am • 26 Replies • 8272 Views

Training a submissive

To many requirements.
If you as the D type cannot remember all the things you ask of an s type - then why should they.

Start with 3.
Hone the 3. Then build.

No punishment during training.

Thu Sep 08, 2022 1:32 am • 28 Replies • 14906 Views

What is mind games in bdsm?

There seems to be 2 separate questions here..

The 1st of what is the psychological aspect of BDSM. That differs for everybody. For some the psychological aspect of BDSM is is taking on a role or a ...

Thu Sep 08, 2022 1:30 am • 6 Replies • 6664 Views

Frustrated with the search

It might be just me - but you are listed as owned (ownd).

So I would assume you are not available.

Thu Sep 08, 2022 1:20 am • 5 Replies • 2048 Views

Just 4 fun: Music. What are you listening to right now?

Im listening to the swamp cooler not working.....

Thu Sep 08, 2022 1:18 am • 261 Replies • 64507 Views

Abuse veiled as protocol

By definition a person cannot consent to abuse.

That being said legally a person cant consent to BDSM either.

I do not believe that consent nullifys abuse.

I believe that abuse is alive an ...

Mon Aug 29, 2022 7:48 pm • 26 Replies • 5776 Views

Abuse veiled as protocol

Hello Cageites!

Ok- here goes---

Protocol especially high protocol has elements of what is also categorized as abuse.
Social isolation- cant speak to others without the D types permission.
Fin ...

Sat Aug 27, 2022 8:39 pm • 26 Replies • 5776 Views

Rules for fighting

Good morning Cageites!!!

As the relationships withon BDSM can carry a power imbalance, how do you fight fair?

What are your rules for fighting?

How do you handle an impasse?

Fri Aug 26, 2022 5:07 pm • 6 Replies • 2234 Views

We're all human beings with different preferences

Depends how I feel. Somedays sure- somedays- nah...

Mon Aug 22, 2022 6:20 am • 13 Replies • 5446 Views

Determining informed consent

I think people confuse informed consent with emotional outcome.
I also think that imformed consent and negotiation go hand in hand.

My beloved and I have been M/s 24/7 for about 23 years. So a l ...

Mon Aug 22, 2022 6:18 am • 29 Replies • 10600 Views