New Dom

I think that you need to stop and self assess.


If you want a relationship what does that look like for you? I mean going into specifics. The more specific the better.

As an s type, what ful ...

Thu Jan 31, 2019 6:24 pm • 10 Replies • 5155 Views

Compatibility

Religion doesn't matter. Unless they are rabid, preachy, and want to convert others.


They also have to bring something to my table. If they are unemployed and not in school I have no interest. ...

Thu Jan 31, 2019 6:17 pm • 16 Replies • 6854 Views

Just a question

On another thought.
Finding where a person belongs can be a difficult process.

We thought we belonged somewhere for years.

Now we make our own community.

What I really love is that our co ...

Wed Jan 30, 2019 1:09 am • 7 Replies • 3168 Views

Just a question

Thecage has been very therapeutic for me.

I don't post personal anything in fetlife. It's to dangerous.


I really like the people here.

There seems to be almost no drama.

On the flip sid ...

Wed Jan 30, 2019 1:04 am • 7 Replies • 3168 Views

Y/you capital and lower case...

https://www.kinkly.com/definition/8493/bdsm-capitalization


"Some sources believe that BDSM capitalization came into practice with Old Guard Leather guidelines which insisted submissives use only ...

Wed Jan 30, 2019 12:57 am • 11 Replies • 6826 Views

Difference of age

There is a 20 + year age gap between us and our third.

Its rough, but we all get older. My body cant do what it used to.


Our third tells us that they feel younger around us.


To be hone ...

Mon Jan 28, 2019 11:41 pm • 47 Replies • 22497 Views

17 years together. Too late to start a BDSM relationship?

CONGRADTS !!!

The conversation is easier then you think.

Repeat after me

"Honey, I love what we have been doing. I have ideas on some new things we can try."

50 shades of grey, although ...

Mon Jan 28, 2019 11:35 pm • 5 Replies • 2714 Views

Is what I'm doing Fair?

@wolfy


Here are the questions:




One- do I need to ask the one protecting you for permission to play?

Two- what are your limits and triggers?

Three- anything medical I need to know? ...

Mon Jan 28, 2019 5:58 pm • 16 Replies • 7404 Views

So... A little help?

Some ppl like the look and feel- like latex.
For some it has to so with sensory deprivation.

Modified they can be used for breath play .

Mon Jan 28, 2019 5:16 am • 21 Replies • 10516 Views

Is what I'm doing Fair?

Years ago I had read a BDSM book. The writer talks about how they had a vetting system for new prospective submissives. The writer would take the new person to a bar. The writer would give no expectat ...

Sun Jan 27, 2019 7:15 pm • 16 Replies • 7404 Views