Invalidating others kinkiness - has anyone else experienced this?

I think it's a very uphill and disappointing battle to attempt to navigate kink (or anything for that matter) through the lens of "shouldn't we all" Because the "community" is made up of individual pe ...

Sun Aug 04, 2024 10:50 pm • 14 Replies • 1074 Views

meaningless tasks

Anything can have meaning. It depends on the person assigning and the person fulfilling. If you're reasoning for having her count all the coins in a jar is to keep her busy then yes it's nothing more ...

Sat Aug 03, 2024 2:18 am • 38 Replies • 2367 Views

Subs with mental illness

Everyone has mental illness. It’s part of life. Some of it transient and other mental illness is permanent. It isn’t specific to gender or title. I know several cis male D types on this site with ment ...

Mon Jun 17, 2024 8:28 am • 31 Replies • 2621 Views

Do You Copy & Paste?

No because everyone is different. I think there are some consistent things (quick intros for example) but if you find that sending the same exact copy/paste message is the most efficient...you might b ...

Fri Feb 16, 2024 8:47 am • 63 Replies • 6145 Views

Stupid Question for Black People (not other people)

For the handful of black people on this platform lol, mixed with the fact that this is a kink site I think the majority would say no it doesn't necessarily offend or matter to them. I personally don't ...

Wed Oct 25, 2023 7:56 pm • 16 Replies • 2971 Views

Why is there a segregated personals catagory just for transpeople?

It was created because there people who wanted their own space instead of being "lost in the pool" like others have said. It was a feature added specifically to accommodate people who asked for it. No ...

Tue Sep 13, 2022 7:41 am • 16 Replies • 3382 Views

Letting go/not holding grudges vs sweeping things important under the rug. What's the difference?

For me it's a very straightforward distinction.

Letting something go/not holding grudges is communicating a potential issue, finding a resolution (or not) accepting the outcome, and choosing to mov ...

Tue Oct 19, 2021 10:02 pm • 20 Replies • 4886 Views