It's a question someone posed on Twitter that I thought was fascinating: Is the BDSM lifestyle 'real' and if so, what does it mean? I suppose it could be interpreted as asking if you can live BDSM 24/7 but I think one could also ask if life with a kinky component or D/s dynamic

As a lifestyle female dominant who is less inclined to the porn version of femdom and more into feminist femled relationships, I've had my issues in the past with the concept of 'pay for play'. But over time my attitudes towards pro domination have changed.

It is a difficult thing for a submissive man to 'encourage' the woman in his life to be dominant.  It can easily veer in to the area of topping from the bottom, or getting in to a "service domme" situ ...

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