Re: When subs get burnt out

What are some tips you’d give to help people avoid foolishness in the BDSM community?

One of my top tips is to think of interactions in kink communities as "people talking with people," instead of ...

Sun Oct 25, 2020 9:08 pm • 16 Replies • 5159 Views

Slave vs the rest

The short answer is that kink titles are not used precisely or consistently by different individuals, so if it matters to you exactly what someone means by a title you're gonna have to ask them.

Th ...

Sun Oct 25, 2020 1:25 am • 2 Replies • 1665 Views

Am I cut out for this?

That sounds like a challenging situation the two of you are in. You each want to be together, and to make the other happy. You want to have a mutually satisfying sex life together, but the two of you ...

Sat Oct 24, 2020 6:40 pm • 20 Replies • 6412 Views

I am a virgin, but I still know that I'm submissive..

Other folks have already given you suggestions to be careful about your safety, and that's good advice. Consider not advertising that you are inexperienced or that you are a virgin, and saving that in ...

Fri Oct 23, 2020 8:10 pm • 5 Replies • 2437 Views

Re: A little bit lost and worried

This is a wretchedly disappointing thread.

Folks: this person opened this thread to ask "am I welcome here." They asked it with a kind of vulnerable directness that takes courage and deserves empat ...

Wed Oct 21, 2020 10:30 am • 59 Replies • 16490 Views

A little bit lost and worried

I've been poking around here a bit in the last couple of months as well, and I'm sorry to say that so far my impression is that the general culture is deeply cis-centric. Have you investigated Fetlife ...

Wed Oct 21, 2020 6:36 am • 59 Replies • 16490 Views

Private parts in profiles

I have talked to several women as to why they hate dick pics. The answers typically are

1) they are ugly
2) they show that the guy wants sex and nothing else
3) They show that the guy has no ot ...

Sat Oct 10, 2020 5:26 am • 119 Replies • 19447 Views

Private parts in profiles

And some man immediately jumps to judging my asking for clarification whether "victim" means rape and physical assault vs. harassment.

I'm not judging you; I'm pointing out a pattern so deeply embe ...

Fri Oct 09, 2020 7:14 pm • 119 Replies • 19447 Views

Private parts in profiles

A detail to point out: I didn't originally write that most victims of sexual violence are women. I wrote that the overwhelming majority of the perpetrators are cis men.

Notice how the conversation ...

Fri Oct 09, 2020 5:43 pm • 119 Replies • 19447 Views

Private parts in profiles

A picture of a penis does not mean the same thing as a picture of a vulva. Because we live in a sexist world.

Because people with penises commit the vast majority of sexual assaults. Because people ...

Fri Oct 09, 2020 5:02 am • 119 Replies • 19447 Views