Simplifying D/s - question for D and s types

I'm regularly separated from my partners for long stretches by work.

One extremely simple thing that always feels good and connecting is a rule to send "Good morning, sir" and "Goodnight, sir" text ...

Sun Mar 28, 2021 5:24 am • 10 Replies • 3423 Views

How do you know what your fetishes are?

Kink tests are kind of like those Facebook quizzes that tell you which Hogwarts house you should be in--they're silly fun and they don't mean very much.

You figure out your desires around sex and k ...

Sun Mar 21, 2021 9:26 am • 10 Replies • 4277 Views

What do you actually *do* in your lifestyle?

I'll start!

Once I had a partner who had a very demanding and unpredictable job. It would have been pretty much impossible for her to keep that job while also having a significant set of regularly ...

Mon Mar 15, 2021 9:19 pm • 25 Replies • 9180 Views

What do you actually *do* in your lifestyle?

When we talk about BDSM as a lifestyle, the ways we describe it are often romantic, sweeping... and kind of vague.

I thought it would be interesting to invite folks who live the lifestyle to share ...

Mon Mar 15, 2021 9:18 pm • 25 Replies • 9180 Views

Why are dominant women the smallest demographic in BDSM?

Lest anyone believe the "women are naturally submissive" nonsense, let's be clear: women who want to dominate are not rare; they're just hard to find on dating sites and in other public scene spaces. ...

Mon Mar 15, 2021 7:03 pm • 47 Replies • 17985 Views

Differences between kink and lifestyle

There's no quick and foolproof way to determine whether someone is really going to follow through on the things they say they want.

Often people don't really know themselves! They've got big fantas ...

Wed Mar 10, 2021 8:21 pm • 22 Replies • 8291 Views

Question for Dom(me)s/Masters

@creidsinn

I'd say that, in general, it isn't always bad for a relationship to come to a natural end. Like Curious Creature said: so long as that's what everybody signed up for. And that can certai ...

Fri Mar 05, 2021 4:02 am • 30 Replies • 9066 Views

Question for Dom(me)s/Masters

There are a few interesting things here.

1. Like Miss Bonnie said, there is no peak! You can always find new directions to explore and new heights to aspire to.

2. There are a lot of different f ...

Wed Mar 03, 2021 1:44 am • 30 Replies • 9066 Views

What does Dominance mean to you?

In the context of BDSM, what dominance means to me is one person bossing another one around because both of them like it that way. It's creating and exercising mutually desired imbalances of control, ...

Mon Mar 01, 2021 4:44 am • 9 Replies • 2870 Views

Playtime Table.....

I had a portable massage table for exactly this purpose. It worked great for all kinds of sensation play where you want the bottom horizontal and at a convenient height to get your hands on them. I ad ...

Sun Feb 28, 2021 6:09 pm • 6 Replies • 2555 Views