Bot or not

The subject title is why I disagree. Messages that, to me, are obvious “bot” don’t get a reply. Neither do non massage messages, I.e messages that expect me to carry the weight of conversation. Onlin ...

Sat Aug 22, 2020 7:21 pm • 2 Replies • 2418 Views

Financially supporting another

"who is not self sustaining, to be relationship ready. "
You say this about finances but you were gay and married a women
Maybe she felt used by being a beard for decades.

While this has nothin ...

Fri Aug 21, 2020 12:33 am • 39 Replies • 14288 Views

Why are you a sub?

i googled, but cannot find what "an fir" is?

Thu Aug 20, 2020 8:57 pm • 18 Replies • 6534 Views

Dom symbols

i love this question, thank you for asking it!

i too am a firm believer in "dar" in general. In my case, i first experienced it as "gaydar,' and experienced it a lot (more) before online took over ...

Thu Aug 20, 2020 8:50 pm • 11 Replies • 9396 Views

Why are you a sub?

i agree with a lot of what Carraway says on this one, i too do not think there is "a simple answer to this one." And like Him, i do not have to understand why to know that i am (sub, in my case).
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Thu Aug 20, 2020 8:22 pm • 18 Replies • 6534 Views

Financially supporting another

There is SO MUCH to unpack in this thread! I love it!

There is no one-sized fits all solution. Everyone has their own definition of what self-sufficient means. Being able to support oneself or self ...

Thu Aug 20, 2020 7:26 pm • 39 Replies • 14288 Views

BDSM in music

"Back Door Man" The Doors

Wed Aug 19, 2020 9:21 pm • 72 Replies • 33432 Views

new at bdsm?

Hi qxo,

There are lots of good, caring people on this site, with some great info, experience and insight. There's a few who also seem to live in a world of their own, asserting knowledge and author ...

Wed Aug 19, 2020 7:16 pm • 7 Replies • 4201 Views

Covid - Anyone with personal experience?

@tallslenderguy
Thank You for answering. I've worked in health care/mental care most of my life and caring for virus infected patients (Hep etc) so I sort of know how it works. I also know the author ...

Wed Aug 19, 2020 6:47 pm • 10 Replies • 6725 Views

Covid - Anyone with personal experience?

The problem with "authorities" is they often speculate based on their experience and knowledge vs evidence. We are still establishing evidence from studies about Covid, so it's a good idea to check s ...

Wed Aug 19, 2020 4:27 pm • 10 Replies • 6725 Views