Contradicting Desires?

I’m a gay bottom with sub, but was married to a woman for years, so I have that mixed perspective.
i shut down with force or bullying, but respond like a magnet to ‘grooming’, which typically has a ...

Sat Jul 11, 2020 7:37 pm • 3 Replies • 2684 Views

Before or after??

When i was married (to a woman), i learned early in our marriage never to come first. The first few weeks of our marriage, she came pretty easily, but then one day about a month into our marriage she ...

Sat Jul 11, 2020 3:58 pm • 6 Replies • 2519 Views

What are some non-sexual traits or things that turn you guys on?

Inquisitive
openness
articulate
courage
vulnerability
balance

Fri Jul 10, 2020 3:37 pm • 119 Replies • 32678 Views

Degradation?

A different take on this.
i've long wondered about my response to certain kinds of "degradation" and how erotically exciting and actually nurturing it can feel? my emotional response seems so counte ...

Thu Jul 09, 2020 6:50 pm • 6 Replies • 2660 Views

Is there so much information that it can obfuscate spontaneity

Great discussion, thanks for starting it Badgirlblues (and i like that you used the word obsfucate to elucidate).

There's some discussion of spontaneity on another recent thread here: https://theca ...

Wed Jul 08, 2020 8:50 pm • 9 Replies • 2959 Views

Re: Creating a Dom?

I’m a new sub and I want my husband to dominate me. I’ve brought up the topic and we’re very open sexually, but I’m not sure where to tell him to start. I’ve discussed what I like, what I’m comfortabl ...

Wed Jul 08, 2020 7:53 pm • 13 Replies • 5033 Views

The Approach - able Question

Love this discussion.

i do not think the onus should be on one side or the other to make the approach. Approaching can be hard, it always carries the risk of rejection, and if one is considering h ...

Tue Jul 07, 2020 7:48 pm • 11 Replies • 4338 Views

Apologies

Just a quick note.
This is my first forum post. This medium might be a little fast paced for my nature to thoughtfully respond, but I am resonating on all of your responses. Thank you.

tallslend ...

Mon Jul 06, 2020 8:58 pm • 30 Replies • 8513 Views

Re: Apologies

I have run in to two men in my life who emphatically do not believe in apologies.
One says that life is too short for apologies. The other says that they are typically empty of heart and just servin ...

Mon Jul 06, 2020 8:23 pm • 30 Replies • 8513 Views

Collaring

i know this is different from the norm, but i see collaring as someone who identifies a kink in me that they are able to sort of captivate and control. i know there are physical parallels or component ...

Sun Jul 05, 2020 5:42 am • 16 Replies • 5623 Views