Is it also hard for other to get into the right headspace? (For Subs)

idk, i imagine it's going to be different for everyone. i became a martial artist as an adult and seems i used it as a coping mechanism as well as a way to get me over the fear of fighting back. As a ...

Tue Jun 30, 2020 12:46 am • 5 Replies • 3111 Views

An interesting thought about the male mind

Science aside, my own personal take as a gay bottom/sub male.

There is evidence that the gay male brain is different from the straight male brain, but no pinpoint stuff i am aware of regarding this ...

Mon Jun 29, 2020 8:52 pm • 31 Replies • 13827 Views

An interesting thought about the male mind

Yet another great question in thecage.

The nerd/scientist in me immediately looked for study evidence. Turns out, this is a studied topic, though i didn't find any large, randomized, double blind s ...

Mon Jun 29, 2020 8:16 pm • 31 Replies • 13827 Views

What's your favourite punishment, giving or receiving?

i don't think i have any masochist in me, i do not relate to those who want to give or receive punishment... and even struggle to understand it sometimes?A root need in my nature is for the Dom/Top to ...

Mon Jun 29, 2020 5:18 pm • 16 Replies • 5987 Views

Open to all: What's your "hook"?

On the purely physical side, a mans ass. i have to be careful at work that i don't ogle. Sometimes a guy will walk by and i find my self turning and staring. i don't know what it is, particularly sinc ...

Mon Jun 29, 2020 4:54 pm • 73 Replies • 21145 Views

Forced Bi-sexual Encounters

Just for clarification, I don't force anything. I seduce consent to something they secretly already want to do.

i loved everything You wrote/written in this response, but particularly wanted to iso ...

Mon Jun 29, 2020 4:35 pm • 39 Replies • 32578 Views

BDSM Porn Sucks

To me porn takes the most important part out of connection, I.e, relationship. It’s acting something out that I think needs to be real.

Mon Jun 29, 2020 4:10 am • 17 Replies • 6258 Views

Open to all: What's your "hook"?

Interest with openness, a little vulnerability. The combination. Some people just wear their heart on their sleeve and are mindlessly open to the world, or even needy. But someone who simultaneously ...

Sun Jun 28, 2020 4:03 pm • 73 Replies • 21145 Views

Is it hard for some to connect this way(online)?

Some wonderfully thoughtful responses, i particularly appreciated:

@LaVieEnRose "sometimes just liking the profile of someone who likes yours is enough of an opening for a conversation to start or ...

Sun Jun 28, 2020 3:53 pm • 13 Replies • 5613 Views

Is it hard for some to connect this way(online)?

Online is a mixed bag for me. The internet shrinks the world. There are people online we would never meet face to face if that's all there was. Sometimes it makes me think of a time when some people ...

Fri Jun 26, 2020 3:43 pm • 13 Replies • 5613 Views