Time wasters?

Chiming in on the subject of time wasters, I had a guy contact me a few days ago who said he doesn't read profiles at all. He just cruises around chatting to people to get to know them. He got irate w ...

Sun Apr 23, 2023 9:34 am • 65 Replies • 14192 Views

Scent and taste conditioning

I agree with Lazuli and Sub Serve that it happens automatically. Sub space is a highly hypnotic and suggestive state, so anything we're exposed to in that state will have a powerful effect on our subc ...

Tue Apr 18, 2023 9:44 pm • 21 Replies • 6664 Views

Is this normal?

Thank you @Heero.
I seem to recall this thread. For me personally, sub drop goes away when I'm in a stable, long-term, committed relationship. I think a big part of the problem that causes sub drop ...

Mon Apr 17, 2023 8:27 am • 15 Replies • 3977 Views

Is this normal?

Yes, it's normal. It's called sub drop and you can do some research on it which will help you deal with it. It's best practice for two people who have done a scene together to contact each other the n ...

Mon Apr 17, 2023 12:49 am • 15 Replies • 3977 Views

Safety in sex?

The other option is that you go to a munch first and get to know the people who will be at the event. The munch will allow you to talk to them in a totally nonsexual social setting. You can see if the ...

Sat Apr 15, 2023 6:30 pm • 5 Replies • 1944 Views

Shy Doms?

Yeah, I understood that. I'm an introvert and the best way for someone to get to know me is to start with superficial topics and let the conversation develop organically. Your original post specifical ...

Mon Apr 10, 2023 11:57 pm • 7 Replies • 1600 Views

Shy Doms?

I'd say there's a difference between being shy, being introverted, and just being cautious. If he's an introvert, then your best bet is to take your time like Heero said. Don't push the dynamic to be ...

Sun Apr 09, 2023 10:05 am • 7 Replies • 1600 Views

What does it mean to you to call a safeword?

What I'm reading in your post is that you're using the "nuclear option" because a dominant giving you a command that is contrary to your mental wellbeing is exactly the kind of extreme situation where ...

Sun Apr 09, 2023 7:16 am • 13 Replies • 2890 Views

Highly experienced sub struggling on how to introduce, educate non-bdsm fiancé wanting to learn.

I would recommend that you do some serious soul-searching of your own about how dominant you need your partner to be. Would you be with this guy if he wasn't dominant at all or if he doesn't develop i ...

Wed Dec 28, 2022 9:35 pm • 24 Replies • 7398 Views

First Times

Generally the first time can be extremely awkward and embarrassing especially if both parties are virgins. You'll need to discuss this with your future spouse so you both expect it and you're ready to ...

Fri Dec 23, 2022 1:19 am • 11 Replies • 3429 Views