Chastity as a Fetish

outsideleft​(other male) • Jun 17, 2018

I guess, I wonder about differences between submission - domination & oppression - tyranny.


I don't get the a D has utter freedom to act upon their fetishes and kinks and a sub must be limited - how is a sub's chastity showing they can be trusted - what does a domme sacrifice to show the sub they can be trusted ???

Are there D's who limit their kinks and fetishes to illustrate their commitment to the gift of a sub's submission ??? I have not heard of it.

I haven't come into kink for my life to shrink - from what I can tell - Domme's come into kink to increase the quality of their lives - why would this be different for a sub ???

I am many things - not a sub or a bottom or a switch or a D...I deeply value liberty and love serving, I am an anarchistic pagan-baby - I have always deplored centralised power - so cannot fathom handing over my own power or expecting another to do so to me...

Just trying to find my way in a universe of contraries.

It is mine

MrsMamurrasCuck​(sub male) • May 8, 2020

I'm Cuck Wannabe! Wife is aware of this but not willing to take it further! We role play and i get to be caged and submissive whipped and pegged while locked. It is incredibly erotic to be controlled by the Woman you love realising how Beautiful and Sexy she is but unable to satisfy her. Playing on my fetish we have a Big pipe dream dildo 8 inches and thick.

It probably turns me on more seeing her with it rather than it does her but being locked up in her power is extremely arousing!

I love being at her mercy

No Body​(dom male) • May 8, 2020

I saw a post once where a male sub begged for a cock cage from anyone. He wanted to know that somewhere out there the key to his cage. A key never to be used. I talked to him once and thought about sending him one but didn't.

tallslenderguy​(other male) • May 8, 2020

This is such a complex topic to me, it has so many angles just in my imagination. i can't fathom anyone being able to answer this in a complete way because the answer depends on the people involved? i do have some random thoughts after reading through the responses though.

The OP wrote: " i see that many male’s have chastity fetishes and wonder that if the chastity is satisfying a sub’s fetish, that the Domme is not really controlling anything. "

i think people can have conflicting desires, that It's possible to enjoy and want an orgasm from penile stimulation and at the same time want to be caged for all sorts of reasons. So, while caging may nurture one desire/need, it simultaneously denies another/need. The key holder has the power over the new imbalance and can manipulate that in so many individual ways.

"Chastity" doesn't have to have a physical cage. Some like cages, some don't, both for personal reasons and i think it's good to find someone who shares a similar approach. But what ever form the chastity takes, a cage or discipline or_________, One thing i don't recall seeing mentioned is the Dom or Top controlling His/Her subs/bottoms orgasm is also controlling their horniness. To me, that's a big part of chastity. For me, when a Top controls my orgasm, it makes me hornier and the hornier i get, the more submissive i get. It's a way for Him (Him in my case because i am gay) to manipulate/nurture my need/desire to submit and please Him.

i have probably mentioned this elsewhere (sorry if i am being redundant), but i have 5 or 6 cages. i have a whole drawer full of dildos, "toys." They almost never get used, some not at all. It's because i am a bottom. i buy all these toys when i am in heat, wishing for or imagining a Top in my life lol. But, i associate cages and dildos (and my other toys associated with my individual needs and wants) with a Top who has the corresponding needs and wants. i have no interest in trying to get a Top to do something He doesn't want or need. But there are Tops out there who don't like cock at all and they relish the idea of minimizing mine, locking it in a cage, keeping me from getting an orgasm by touching my penis, making my sexual pleasure, orgasm, dependent on Him, restricting my sexual pleasure to penetration He controls... the list can go on and on.

The point is, cages and dildos and "toys" are just lifeless implements to me. They take on life in the hands of a person who is connected to it/them. i see a Top holding a cage with lust in His eyes, and suddenly that cage is alive for me. Same with a dildo, or_____________.

Those who describe some of their personal/specific kinks in profiles, not as demands, but as a way of being naked, self disclosure, get my attention front and center. That vs someone who says: "I like control." That tells me very little about them, because control can take so many forms. If a guys says: "I like to control my bottoms orgasm by putting his penis in chastity, let me know if you want more details." This guy will have me panting and contacting Him, because i can see there may be chemistry.

House Talion​(dom male) • May 10, 2020

As inseenit, chastity is just another form or restraint. As much as I enjoy the use of such restraints ivebalways loved the full submision you receive when your word is all that's needed. As your sub or slave sits, stays, kneels, holds, or submits in any other way just cause you say so.

TheDankLord​(switch male) • May 20, 2020

For me I like it for a couple reasons. Main one is, imo, it is the ultimate form of control. Being tied up, handcuffed, up in a cage, blindfolded etc. is one thing. But your genitals are your most private area, something that for most people is under their exclusive control. When you surrender that to a dom, its a new and deeper level of submission. It signifies total control and ownership. The most intimate part of you is now locked away and under your partners control, making you totally dependent on them to fulfill your sexual needs. The denial of sexual pleasure for the submissive partner, combined with an absence of such restrictions for the dominant one, is a great power move to remind a sub/slave of their place. Personally the idea of seeing a dom experience pleasure whenever she wants, while only being able to experience pleasure myself at her discretion, is incredibly hot. Its not for everyone but for those who crave total submission it can be a fun way of bringing that into your life.

Other reason is that is can make sex more enjoyable by forcing you to focus all your sexual attention on your partner, and making sex more special by limiting how often it happens. When you're unable to touch yourself or achieve penetration due to a chastity device, arousal builds up over time and makes one extremely horny and sexually frustrated. This only increases the longer you are in chastity. Chastity forces you to turn to your partner as your sole source of pleasure, and devote 100% of yourself to them instead of wasting sexual energy on porn/masturbation. Because of this, sex becomes that much more special, intimate, and intense when it does happen. You also savor it more and don't take sex for granted, knowing it might be a long time before your partner decides to remove the chastity device again.

Personally I love chastity and its one of my biggest fantasies. If I'm ever lucky enough to be with a dominant woman I hope she puts me in chastity