Villanelle wrote:
How do you feel about online BDSM play? Can any of it be thrilling, beneficial, or even educational?
Can you have an authentic power exchange long distance and online?
What resources do you use to amplify your online roleplay (for example toys, tasks, etc.) or if you play online, does it always remain in the realm of fantasy?
Looking forward to hearing everyone's thoughts!
First off welcome Elvira
I feel online is relevant as long ALL parties are getting something from the interaction.
Play after all is about getting your needs met and meeting the needs of the other.
I do believe for me, online needs to have an end date to met as I can only live so long without actual contact. I do tend to want more in the long run. However, I do have a 24/7 relationship(s) so 'online" for me (now) is often a supplement or an addition to my 24/7 poly arrangments.
I've always been face to face (I hate the term real time, real is as real as you make it) I first ventured into online play about 15 ish year ago to research/experience Femme play (sissy/CD) as my partner at the time had this as a hard limit. Online was a good way for me to explore this. My first ever foray into text based play lead to more in depth play via cam (and later collar) We are still good friends over 15 years later so it can work long term if you can keep the heat. For us now it is more friendship but again, as mentioned I need that physical touch in the end. He will always hold a special place in my heart. I can honestly say we both got a lot out of it. I still consider him collared by me all these years later.
when I play online now days I expect the same as I started with: We use/d cams, voice, pictures, parcels in the mail, emails, tasks, rituals and chatroom private messages. . For him being in an isolated area, online was as close as he could ever get without moving. sometimes those online have no other choices due to circumstances like location or caring for elderly parents etc so it can work well. I guess it comes down to how serious you actually want to be with having a online relationship or just a casual hot text session or email exchange. For me I like to remember the other person on the other side of the keyboard is a real thinking feeling person. For me I like to know them just as well as I would a face to face partner.