Question for Female Dommes and chime in anyone please

Question for Female Dommes and chime in anyone please

Ms MaryJane{NOT LOOKIN} • Nov 10, 2020

Hey there, usually I am just a voyeur and enjoy reading blogs and forums. Posting a question for the first time.
I frequent another site's chatroom. A male sub came in asking for a Dominant B*tch. So Dommes how do you feel about a sub addressing you as a Dominant Bitch?
Just didn't fly right with me as anyone who would call me or another female a bitch I find rude and disrespectful.

LaVieEnRose​(sub female){Kintsugi} • Nov 10, 2020

If a Dom(me) messaged me and there was no established relationship and agreement, I’d either not respond or in my own way tell them to fuck off.

MissBonnie​(dom female){oz} • Nov 10, 2020

I'd see it a little differently and not as a personal insult. I'd assume he was either new to the lifestyle and got his "education" from media driven porn made to appeal and sell to males or the reverse, hes been around the block more times than once and knew he needs the "bitch" style of Domination and hes cutting to the chase.

Myself, it wouldn't fly to well with me either, no matter where it sprang from .......but if he kept addressing me as such would either get the "bitch" for real or the Mother chat about using his big head and how he needs to stand out for all the right reasons....or I'd ask him how that statement is working for him so far?

Miki​(masochist female) • Nov 10, 2020

They might do that hoping to get a special punishment, but it generally smacks of inexperience. As a maso-girl, I don't deal much with male subs, but the ones I happen to know out of the context seem to be somewhat inept at how all this shit works.

Sasa​(dom female) • Nov 12, 2020

He got your attention... was it worth the time? I never had a situation like that, except some funny requests I couldn't take seriously. This is not the style I prefer. I am patient and mostly laugh, but if people cross a line too often it can change quickly.

Onlinedomguy​(dom male) • Nov 12, 2020

Sounds to me like someone who may not have a great deal of experience. I started my exploration in this world as a sub and I could not imagine referring to a D that way.

It could be intentional and reflect his view of woman in a negative sense, but I tend to give people the benefit of the doubt until they reveal who they are.

silvia​(switch female) • Nov 12, 2020

I’m still really new to this world, but after years of reading about BDSM. That’s like a huge disrespect. I would tell them Dude, no and to take a hike. Unless they are looking for punishment right away.

SubDraco​(sub male){Caged} • Nov 13, 2020

Hmm. What he may of been trying to say is bitchy domme, not dominant bitch. Either way I dont think its a good way to start it. He just is not good at words. Calling a potential domme a bitch is pretty disrespectful.

latexbondagebunny​(other male) • Nov 13, 2020

I would take offense with the word 'bitch' being used in context of anyone. I have used in context of myself a few times, but that's me describing what I'm looking for. lol

Try Polite conversation first, get to know a person and if your Looking for a certain type of Dominant, you will naturally gravitate towards that type.

PS - Waves to IslandMistress77. Long time no see.

latexbondagebunny.

tallslenderguy​(other male) • Nov 13, 2020

lmao... oh boy... sorry.

Like Bonnie, i'd think this guy was ignorant and taking his cues from the wrong source. i don't think an experienced sub would ever say that.

"Bitch" is a hard word to use in writing i think. i'm a total bottom, and like a female dog, i take cock, but i will take the term negatively if there is a mean tone attached to it. An affectionate tone? i heel. But i'm not a Domme or woman, i think it's a lot riskier (read: "stupid") to go up to any woman who is a stranger and use "bitch," let alone a Domme.

Nope, cannot find any logic in that one at all.