Herkermer wrote:
After reading everyone’s replies to this thread, particularly those from the women, what is worthy of a reply?
Doesn’t get a response…
-Grammar
-Sexual
-Too long or boring
-Pointing out common interests
-Being demanding
-Too short
-Not long enough
-Having a shitty profile(which isn’t even a message)
So what does get a genuinely interested reply?
I personally run out of steam in attempting to be genuine and actually putting effort in to a message, when the likelihood of getting a reply is around 10%. Most of those replies are that of scammers.
You might as well ask how long a piece of string is. Some people put "Not looking" with their name - others don't (I don't even know how to do it!) but they still may not be actively looking for a partner.
I do a very simple checklist when I get a message. How old is the person who messaged? Where are they? Is their profile filled out? What does it say? Do they have pics? If no, I'm already wary. If yes, do I like the look of them? If you get through that checklist, then I'll look at your message. Is it personal to me? Is it well written? (Words are my thing. Good writing is essential for me.) How do they come across?
Is there a likelihood I will get on with this person? Am I interested in them as a kink friend? Am I interested in them as a potential Dom?
Looking at *all* of this, do I want to respond?
People comment, "You could at least say 'No thank you', that's polite." Usually these comments come from men. I've been polite, a lot. Said thanks but no thanks. Occasionally you get a "No worries, thanks for the reply". *More often than not* you get Why? Or they ignore the no thanks or just keep on talking. Or they get their knickers in a twist and start calling you whore, or too old/ fat anyway. If you don't reply, usually they just write you off and move on...