kinkykelsi wrote:
There's a personals category for subs seeking, doms seeking, etc. Yet they put all trans-related personals in one group as if transpeople don't fit any other category. Surprising as it may sound, transfolk aren't all the same. We have a variety of kinks too! It feels very discriminatory and obtuse.
i'm sorry you feel this way. As you can no doubt see by the responses, perception is not universally the same.
Growing up gay in a culture, and at a time when being gay was considered both "sinful" and "sick," i built the proverbial closet. i know what it means to feel alone and isolated, i know it's a rotten way to feel. i've experienced being arrested because i am gay, it was very scary and demeaning for me. At the time, the 'authorities' were using a 100 year old 'sodomy' law to arrest and charge gay people with a felony.
As others have noted, the trans section of the personal ads was created at the request of some trans people here. Were they being "discriminatory and obtuse " to request that category? idk, i doubt they perceived themselves as such. i know i've felt discriminated against by other gays. It's possible for anyone to be discriminatory and obtuse. It still surprises me when i encounter a gay bigot, but they exist.
i believe discriminating and obtuse people are everywhere, but i do not think this sites structure or intent is. i think it's quite the opposite. i've been on and off this site over time because i have not encountered many guys who like guys here, so when i am needing personal interaction with guys who want guys, i go to sites that have more of those types of guys. But i've had lots of great interaction with many of the people on this site. Even though most of the folk i encounter and discuss with are not gay men, many of us here have kinks in common and we connect through those common kinks. i don't think most of the core group, or those who run this site, would be the least bit surprised that all transfelk are not the same. Ego/ethnocentriciy is not unique to heterosexuality, we all have that capacity in common lol. i think we see it most in straight culture because straight culture makes up the majority of people. i find a LOT more accpetance and understanding from straight people now than i did even 20 years ago.
i find the site set up accommodating, even if those who populate the different categories are not an exact match. Given how you identify: "kinkykelsi
sub trans woman," it seems there are several places in the personals you could post or look seeking people. Just going by what you post as your identifier i count several places that include the identifiers: "transgender, sub[missive], woman." There isn't a "gay" category for me or gay guys, but there are several men seeking men categories. i would not be surprised though, if enough gay people asked, the site might put a "gay" category too. If The Cage did have a "gay" personals category, i personally would not consider it discriminatory or obtuse, i'd consider it an effort on their part to be inclusive.