niceguywithaplan wrote:
This is a very interesting topic and I'm glad you posted.
When I first entered the world of BDSM, I was not interested in any way in watersports, as I saw it strictly as a way of degrading someone, which there is nothing wrong with degrading if that is your kink, it is for many, but I was never turned on by that as a Dom/Daddy, but as time went on, my thinking shifted.
Now before I go further, let me say that if I am working with a sub/little, and she asks for or needs to be degraded in this way, I will most certainly incorporate it, it is all about helping her to grow in her journey to the best of her ability.
As for my change of mind, I began to see it as a display of trust. I began to see it as my sub wishing to show me just how completely willing she is to break down her inhibitions and taboos for me. I see this as just one more special gift that my sub can offer to me.
That being said, as I have grown, I have found that my favorite aspect of watersports is to ask my sub to pee on the floor (of course with plastic laid down ahead of time) as I watch her. This is usually one of the final acts of training I will ask and it is only after much trust and honesty has been built up. For my sub to be able to do such an intimate act in front of me, shows just how much she trusts me, to break down something so deeply instilled in our upbringing, that of using a bathroom rather than the floor, this is usually very, very intense for the sub and she needs much comforting and reassurance afterwords but the reward is that after that, she usually is free enough to do or ask for anything. So, I have grown to truly love this aspect of play, something that even surprised me.
i love reading Your perspective, for me it grasps the essence of 'WS.' For me it's not so much about the piss/pee (for me, Tops have piss, bottoms pee), but all of the associations we make with it and the act of voiding. We have so many emotions programmed into us, many of them unconscious.
WS can definitely be used to evoke feelings of degradation/humilation in me, but depending on the Top and His desire/need/attitude, it can be a very bonding experience and deeply affirming for both of us. He exercises His power of control, deepening a sense of ownership. It's another layer of nakedness, vulnerability, exposure, where the barriers that separate are removed and a closer connection is achieved.