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Could someone explain Old Guard vs. New Guard

I'mME
1 year ago • Sep 4, 2023
I'mME • Sep 4, 2023
Little Vixie wrote:
TopekaDom wrote:

I find it no more disrespectful than New Guard people tell me I am an abuser and should be arrested.

In my point of view, these are not people who want to make the effort to create structure. They want to be cutesy and think that S&M stand for Stand and Model. They really have no discipline nor desire any. Then they tell use we need to change to fit in and that would destroy the very core of what we Old Schoolers are.

They want us to give up our methods so they can fit in.

Not going to do that.


No One told you in this thread to do that. Bdsm is a very open community and to say that because people want the softer side, makes them not apart of it is again disrespectful. We can point fingers back and forth about who is right and who is wrong.
One thing for sure in this forum is that you are being judgement as fuck because you don't play with that aspect. Who cares. If ddlg or brats aren't you speed then it's not. But they aren't any less a part of this community than you are.

If someone were to take a look at what you do as a sadist, yeah someone may call the cops. But they don't comprehend the trust that goes into that dynamic. Just as you aren't with brats and brat tamers and ddlg. No one is telling you to stop doing what you do in the kink world. You are always going to meet someone who has an issue with it. But being narrow minded and saying "well because some people say I'm an abuser, then you weak loving people can't be apart of what I think is bdsm"

Again times are changing. Being narrow minded is gross and will get you know where. Im not going to continue to argue with you after this because it's clear that we will not agree with each other. Just be safe with your kink and don't yuck on others yums



The word lifestyle has been watered down. The influx of new people who dont educate themselves, who are in a relationship calling someone Master, Daddy , whatever, within a week, its a mockery for many people. They have been living the lifestyle for years.

That means they do not turn it off and on, like weekend kinksters do, people that do play dates, people that jump in and out of ??? every other week, month, couple months. (I can't even put a name to this behavior) There was a time, not that long ago, when someone said lifestyle, they were not speaking about all kink and people that engage in kink. They meant a specific sub group of the kink world.

Many of these 'new' people are not interested in learning anything that is considered traditional, many are pushy and rude. A mindset that is seen a lot with generations after GenX on certain topics. Now those that use the term Boomer, they are a special kind of little snot...🤣

This is just a small piece of my assessment of the situation.
Miki​(masochist female)
1 year ago • Sep 4, 2023
Miki​(masochist female) • Sep 4, 2023
I'mME wrote:
Literate Lycan wrote:
Not to disagree with the esteemed gentleman from Topeka, and my time on the earth isn't nearly as long (oh wait - hey we're about the same age - my bad), but I heard the term Old Guard a while ago and did a little research . . . or rather a lot of research . . . to determine what it was. There is a rather sizable difference between the "Old Guard" and Old Schoolers. I believe the good gentleman may be referring to an Old Schooler, which is distinctly different than Old Guard.

Over the years, the moniker has been borrowed or outright stolen by those who never earned it, hence the rather nebulous understanding of the term or terms. Further the lack of clarity on the Old Guard might indicate it has dwindled away to a very small group of practitioners from the size it once may have been. I am by no means in any way, shape or form knowledgable in this subject beyond researching it and even in that, there are various "experts" who took a weekend course and now write blogs about it. The closest I might consider myself would be at one time I used Right Guard as an underarm deodorant . . . but I digress.

The lifestyle isn't mine, nor do I claim any affiliation with it. That being said, most somewhat accurate accounts indicate the Old Guard originated with soldiers who returned from WWII and sought out the military structure and associations they had formed while deployed. Most of those associations apparently were homosexual. They established rigid rules of behavior in their Guard, simulating the order of the military. Most accounts attribute the leather to the gear they wore while riding motorcycles. And the leather became part of the lifestyle where they wore their badges of "honor" and "rank" on them (my words), very similar to the badges and insignia on their uniforms. It was a way for someone in the lifestyle to determine if someone else was in the lifestyle.

There is a great deal of conjecture that the earliest practitioners passed down the knowledge by mentoring and teaching. To become Old Guard, you had to be welcomed in and mentored. They were gatekeepers (as you can imagine, if they were practicing BDSM and homosexuality in the 40s and 50s, they had to maintain a secret lifestyle I would guess). You had to pass through rights of initiation and prove your metal. And there was a rigid structure from what I've read. Somewhere along the line, others probably felt the thought of being "Old Guard" was cool and stole the term to use. They may have felt the high protocol of the Old Guard was cool, but didn't feel they wanted the rest . . . such as actually learning, or maybe they weren't gay.

I don't know how the Old Guard may have morphed over the years. Did it expand to include heterosexuals as well? Don't know.

I guess if there was an Old Guard, there must be a New Guard, but I just don't see that. I think it's more self-imposed importance to call oneself the New Guard. What are you guarding? Certainly not a specific lifestyle as the Old Guard may have thought. Anyone claiming they were trained in the ways of the Old Guard probably were not. I would believe there are still pockets of Old Guard and I'm certain someone on the Cage may know of them, but like many legends of the past, I believe they are not what they once were. I sought out smarter individuals than I am by far on the subject and none of them actually know anyone trained in the Old Guard. That isn't to say that others don't mentor one another and learn from one another. But I don't believe it's as it was. Maybe still in existence, just not quite the same.

I do agree with Topeka on the New Guard: from the little I've read, the New Guard represents the new leather scene and is more into enjoyment and doesn't practice protocol or gatekeeping. They frown upon anyone else who would practice routines or protocol. But what do I know? As I said, not my bag. And if anyone actually knows, I will stand corrected if you have better information. Or if you were actually Old Guard. Have a great evening.




LL
Just a small correction on your writing. The men in the Old Guard would meet at biker bars. Several places opened up for them, but one thing or another would be their demise. Its how biker bars got in the mix, and Im sure some would have picked up the joy of riding. Leather can be thr difference between keeping some layers of skin or not if the bike goes down. These men had all kinds of protocols and rituals, steeped in hierarchy.


(Stepping away quietly.)


Quietly?

Stepping away?

My ass.

Hmm.. I usually concur with the practice of "stepping away quietly"

...except that you wrote such as a function of being passive/aggressive.

I concur that latter day norms would tend to marginalize dinosaurs like TopekaDom..

BUT is it not the thing these days to fight marginalization???

"We're all For Inclusion" and all that nice-sounding, creamy bullshit spewed by politicians seeking office and their sycophants seeking to send them there--

Is that all not "marginalization" ?




SWAK Honey Buns


MM
simplylaura​(sub female){djinni}
1 year ago • Sep 4, 2023
Since there is a LOT of misinformation here, as a patched in senior member of a Leather club and who and tries to espouse Leather values in her life, I urge you all to please read the article that Djinni posted from legit "old guard" elder Hardy Haberman. In addition check out this article by Laura Antoniou, another well known Leather elder (though please don't tell her I said she's an elder) http://lantoniou.com/on-leather-traditions-and-houses-and-other-things-people-try-to-sell-you-on/. I'm also posting the text of the article in this comment, since I'm sure most folks won't follow links to it. The veracity of the books Urban Aboriginals and the Leathermans/leatherboy Handbooks are questioned, but give a good idea of what people believe "old guard" values to be. And "old guard" and "old school" are absolutely not even close to the same thing.

From Laura Antoniou's Blog

ON “LEATHER TRADITIONS” AND “HOUSES” AND OTHER THINGS PEOPLE TRY TO SELL YOU ON- June 9, 2014
http://lantoniou.com/on-leather-traditions-and-houses-and-other-things-people-try-to-sell-you-on/

A question about “old leather traditions” and “houses” came up on someone else’s FB page and I wrote this advice: There are no “old leather traditions.” There are behaviors that individuals and small, isolated groups developed as customs (Bob has a new bike! Let’s all pee on it!) and there are behaviors individuals established as relationship habits (Call me Lady!) but there are no unified, recognized leather “traditions.” A “house” is not part of anything that anyone would recognize as an “old leather tradition,” whether it’s a custom or a habit. If your new friend wants to join in a group with quaint, individual rules that mostly come out of “what makes them feel good,” that’s awesome. She should ask them what all these rules are and see if they make HER feel good, and then do whatever she feels is comfortable and sexy and positive and right for her in order to join their little club, knowing full well that should it get creepy, stupid, onerous or no-longer-sexy, she can wave bye-bye and wander off to find more people with their own little quaint rules. Which will be entirely different from the ones she just learned/experienced. My advice would be to be very wary of anything that sounds like “this is the right way!” (as opposed to “this is MY way, because I love it when things happen this way! Whee!) and understand that everything is subject to negotiation. Also, that if she needs to pass tests, perform feats of strength and derring-do, gets special clothing to wear and toys to play with and secret handshakes, those are super fun things for grownups to do, and having the mindset to throw yourself fully into the moment can be quite a rush.

And ultimately – anyone who says you MUST do anything to be “real” or “true” is basically saying, “...in MY Sooper Sekrit No Cooties Clubhouse!” So, any time you hear words like that, just think “super secret clubhouse,” and you will know instantly whether you want to continue chatting, let alone consider play, sex or a relationship.

There are a lot of people in the world who find it very hard to find meaning in their lives. We seek it in all sorts of affiliations, looking for affirmation, community, friendship, relationships, connection, or even just responses. (Including anger, outrage, and hurt.) To seek it in fiction just removes the messiness of dealing with actual humans. We should vacation in fiction and make-believe and the passion of special interests and hobbies and rituals and societies. But in my humble opinion, to live a full life, you have to walk between and across multiple worlds and deal with people and situations in an infinite number of levels, with only the sketchiest of rules and guides to work with. This is part of being an adult; it’s part of being a mensch. We love to brag about how hard it is to be queer, kinky, poly, and then we argue about what the real and true meanings of those words are and who belongs in our clubs and who does not. We waste so much time and energy and focus on these things, fighting with each other when there’s a whole world of people who would delight in our unhappiness and strife and grin when we turn on each other and make things hard for anyone new to our little worlds. I just think that’s a shame.

There’s a BIG difference between “This is the way someone told me it should be,” and “This is an old (kinky) tradition,” or worse, “This is a standard belief/truth/requirement in our subculture.”

There’s also a huge difference between, “This is what works for me” and “This is how it must work for you.”

You may find a story/theory/style romantically compelling – the way I, for example, romanticize a kinky/leather/SM culture of entering via a period of bottoming, service & obedience, and then later figuring out where you feel best suited to identify and behave. And maybe someone who came out before you, or is just older than you once told you that was the way it really happened “back in the day.” But sorry – it really did NOT. Did some people do something like that? Sure! Can you do that now? Absolutely! Is it valuable, or exciting, or sexy or heroic? Why not? If you like it, then it’s all of those things. But if it doesn’t appeal to you, and you discover your tastes and talents and partners by tricking via an online dating app, that works too.

Who knows – some day, people will be saying your favorite app is an “Old Guard app.” That’s how these things go.

So, if you want a spiffy new hat, go get yourself one. Especially if you look good in hats. If you feel it would be better to “earn” a spiffy new hat, then tell your lover/partner/friends/super secret club. Perform your feats of strength and derring-do. Earn that spiffy hat and wear it with pride. But don’t call what you just did an Ancient Leather Tradition of the House of The Reddened Tuchus. There’s no such thing as the Old Guard Hatting Ceremony. And if you just decided to get a hat because you look good in hats, wear it with pride because you should always walk with pride in what makes you look good and feel good about yourself.

Here’s the trick though – just because something is untrue, or limited to a certain time and place and not universally accepted as truth, does NOT deny its romance or mythic power. We should by all means create rituals and styles and protocols and traditions in our little communities. These are the ways human beings interact, find connection and meaning, mark exciting and worthy experiences and times in their lives. Just OWN that we are, if not trying to re-create something that never was, actually creating something new and uniquely US. Say, “This is MY CLUB’S way of showing respect and love for community minded members. We buy them clothing and then piss all over them while they wear it. Your party is this upcoming Saturday. Bring a towel.” Say, “This is the way my partner and mentor taught me, and it was so meaningful for me, I’d like to share that experience with you.” Then get agreement/consent, and go bravely forward. Instead of saying things like “Boys must be in service!” or “Dominants must never bottom!” or “Women must always be submissive!” and sounding like a douchebag, say, “To me, boy is a state of mind and an identity which may or may not include service,” or “I prefer not to bottom myself, it doesn’t turn me on as much as being in charge of things and topping does,” and “I prefer submissive women for my partners.” Own your identity and preferences and your myths and realities and stop trying to make them into something universal or absolute.

Do not EVER let someone tell you that because of an identity or role or title or article of clothing, someone is excused from common courtesy. Top/daddy/mommy/mistress/master/trainer/dominant/caliph/lord/lady/alpha/protector/uber-thunder-pack-leaders should still be polite – in fact, if they’re really thinking of being considered a leader, they will be EXTRA polite, just to show off their awesome good manners. Bottom/girl/slave/boy/pup/trainee/submissive…you get the picture…people should never be treated with disrespect or discourtesy outside of their personal sphere of consent. Period. We’re always humans, first. And no matter how you identify and what club you join and what rules you choose to follow – we must START with “treat each other as humans worthy of common courtesy and consideration.” It also follows that when someone in our crowd is acting like a douchebag, we hold them responsible. “I are a dominate, I don’t have to be polite!” and “But this slave is merely a lowly submissive, unless my Chosen Person says I should be responsible, I get excused!” should have the same weight as “But I AM a fairy princess/Transforming robot!” foot-stamping tantrums from 5-year-olds. The kinky, fetishy, role/identity based stuff? That’s all personal and negotiated.

Imagine how much more time, energy and focus we’d all have if we spent less time debating terms and roles which will never have universal value and meaning in as varied an underculture as we have. (Seriously, one of the first TES meeting topics I remember from 30 FUCKING YEARS AGO was “What’s the difference between a submissive and a slave?” Have we figured that out yet? No? How about we move the fuck on?) Imagine how easier things would be for newbies if they weren’t inundated with “must” and “should” outside of “Be courteous to others,” “Don’t take what’s not yours,” and “Use your words.” Imagine how many people of generally good intentions could have so much more free time to, I dunno, hook up and play, teach classes, make art, chat and flirt and get to know people if they didn’t spend so much time arguing over telling people what to do or how to behave in any situation Dear Abby or Miss Manners has already covered…or refuting the multitude of outright lies and exaggerations.

So, yeah. If you and your friends have a group of like-minded people and you wanna call yourselves a house or a clan or a family or a pride or whatever, you go do that. If you want a collaring ritual, make one. Or, steal one you find in a book or on the internet. But don’t call your spiffy new collar the Olde Guarde Blue Collar of Consideration. Call it the Purple Collar of Passionfruit Cocktails, or Lady Sparkle’s Collar or call it Bob. Just don’t try to make it seem like there are thousands of people who know what your ceremony means, what the collar means, or anything else other than someone’s got a new thing around their neck. Feel proud and happy explaining what you mean to other people and don’t assume they’ll magically know that according to your way, wearing the collar means …anything. And when you SEE someone in a spiffy new purple collar, ASK them about it. TALK to people. Find out what they’re doing and why and you will probably find out that while in YOUR values and fantasies and realities, a collar means you’re only dating the person with a key, but according to this other person, a collar means they do household chores while dressed differently and use a whole bunch of fancy rules. And meanwhile, at the other end of the dungeon, someone is wearing a collar because they look fucking HOT in a collar and they want to attract some playmates.

And it’s all good.
SkyeWriter​(dom female)
1 year ago • Sep 5, 2023

Interesting Reads on the Old Guard

SkyeWriter​(dom female) • Sep 5, 2023
Here's an interesting read from Race Bannon--who a lot of people would easily identify as "Old Guard":

https://bannon.substack.com/p/the-old-guard-that-never-was-and

another take from him that is a few years older:

https://bannon.com/2014/10/26/the-truth-about-old-guard/
dollMaker​(dom male)
1 year ago • Sep 5, 2023
dollMaker​(dom male) • Sep 5, 2023
Guy Baldwin’s views on this topic should be thrown into the mix

https://leatherati.com/the-old-guard-classical-leather-culture-revisited-4fdc796aa25

https://ayzad.com/old-gods-die-hard/

Anyone wanting to research this wont find the information unless they look to the gay community, as while anecdotal material suggests some straight people might have been around it was a gay, all male activity, one in which those taking part did not view themselves, back in the day, as anything guard, nor was there any universality regarding what was done.

If someone straight and in their 50s or 60s tells you they are, or were old guard they, more than likely, are either deluded, seeking to be a hanger on, or lying. The men who were involved, were involved in the 1950s and 60s and are mostly dead, either from old age, or in many cases from what became known as AIDS.

In time the ideas, experiences of the surviving pioneers has coalesced, by others, into a more modern, formal concept known as Leather, which now days is inclusive, to permit/ include all those originally not part of it.

Leatherati magazine online is a good place to read articles about these topics, as are books about it, though some are harder to get these days, now being collectables.
WhatamIfightingfor​(dom male){CurvyB}
1 year ago • Sep 5, 2023
I am no expert. There is a bit of nostalgia and authority with using the words old, and guard. I see after reading replies on here that the leather scene and troops coming home from WWII provided the ground work and the seeds of the modern culture, with the several literary sources.

That said, I have noticed the term old guard used in what appears to a personal definition of old guard. This could be their own idea, it could be what they new growing up, it could be based on research, it could be based on something that they dreamed up from fragments.

As for how things have changed, that is part of life and culture, and the last 200 have seen the world change to be unrecognizable , even in the last 30 it is hard to recognize. This complicates matters as changes in the scene have been rather rapid.

Old with it meaning makes this even more difficult, as it can mean centuries of tradition, and/ or your parents' traditions they came up with. It really only means before you knew of most of the time, and is hard to separate from nostalgia.

Just my two cents looking at how the words are handled.
I'mME
1 year ago • Sep 6, 2023
I'mME • Sep 6, 2023
dollMaker wrote:
Guy Baldwin’s views on this topic should be thrown into the mix

https://leatherati.com/the-old-guard-classical-leather-culture-revisited-4fdc796aa25

https://ayzad.com/old-gods-die-hard/

Anyone wanting to research this wont find the information unless they look to the gay community, as while anecdotal material suggests some straight people might have been around it was a gay, all male activity, one in which those taking part did not view themselves, back in the day, as anything guard, nor was there any universality regarding what was done.

If someone straight and in their 50s or 60s tells you they are, or were old guard they, more than likely, are either deluded, seeking to be a hanger on, or lying. The men who were involved, were involved in the 1950s and 60s and are mostly dead, either from old age, or in many cases from what became known as AIDS.

In time the ideas, experiences of the surviving pioneers has coalesced, by others, into a more modern, formal concept known as Leather, which now days is inclusive, to permit/ include all those originally not part of it.

Leatherati magazine online is a good place to read articles about these topics, as are books about it, though some are harder to get these days, now being collectables.



dollMaker,

I would include Master TaĂ­no also.
dollMaker​(dom male)
1 year ago • Sep 6, 2023
dollMaker​(dom male) • Sep 6, 2023
I'mME wrote:
dollMaker wrote:
Guy Baldwin’s views on this topic should be thrown into the mix

https://leatherati.com/the-old-guard-classical-leather-culture-revisited-4fdc796aa25

https://ayzad.com/old-gods-die-hard/

Anyone wanting to research this wont find the information unless they look to the gay community, as while anecdotal material suggests some straight people might have been around it was a gay, all male activity, one in which those taking part did not view themselves, back in the day, as anything guard, nor was there any universality regarding what was done.

If someone straight and in their 50s or 60s tells you they are, or were old guard they, more than likely, are either deluded, seeking to be a hanger on, or lying. The men who were involved, were involved in the 1950s and 60s and are mostly dead, either from old age, or in many cases from what became known as AIDS.

In time the ideas, experiences of the surviving pioneers has coalesced, by others, into a more modern, formal concept known as Leather, which now days is inclusive, to permit/ include all those originally not part of it.

Leatherati magazine online is a good place to read articles about these topics, as are books about it, though some are harder to get these days, now being collectables.



dollMaker,

I would include Master TaĂ­no also.


A new name to me, thank you for mentioning it. A brief online look is interesting.
simplylaura​(sub female){djinni}
1 year ago • Sep 6, 2023
dollMaker wrote:
I'mME wrote:
dollMaker wrote:
Guy Baldwin’s views on this topic should be thrown into the mix

https://leatherati.com/the-old-guard-classical-leather-culture-revisited-4fdc796aa25

https://ayzad.com/old-gods-die-hard/

Anyone wanting to research this wont find the information unless they look to the gay community, as while anecdotal material suggests some straight people might have been around it was a gay, all male activity, one in which those taking part did not view themselves, back in the day, as anything guard, nor was there any universality regarding what was done.

If someone straight and in their 50s or 60s tells you they are, or were old guard they, more than likely, are either deluded, seeking to be a hanger on, or lying. The men who were involved, were involved in the 1950s and 60s and are mostly dead, either from old age, or in many cases from what became known as AIDS.

In time the ideas, experiences of the surviving pioneers has coalesced, by others, into a more modern, formal concept known as Leather, which now days is inclusive, to permit/ include all those originally not part of it.

Leatherati magazine online is a good place to read articles about these topics, as are books about it, though some are harder to get these days, now being collectables.



dollMaker,

I would include Master TaĂ­no also.


A new name to me, thank you for mentioning it. A brief online look is interesting.


Master Taino was supposed to present at GODS (Guild of Deviated Standards- sprouted from the ashes of Denver's Thunder in the Mountains) that Djinni and I were at last month but he has to cancel last minute due to a sick slave. I've met him and he is a delightful guy, and seems to walk his talk rather unproblematically.
TopekaDom​(dom male)
1 year ago • Sep 6, 2023
TopekaDom​(dom male) • Sep 6, 2023
Little Vixie wrote:
No One told you in this thread to do that. Bdsm is a very open community and to say that because people want the softer side, makes them not apart of it is again disrespectful. We can point fingers back and forth about who is right and who is wrong.
One thing for sure in this forum is that you are being judgement as fuck because you don't play with that aspect. Who cares. If ddlg or brats aren't you speed then it's not. But they aren't any less a part of this community than you are.

If someone were to take a look at what you do as a sadist, yeah someone may call the cops. But they don't comprehend the trust that goes into that dynamic. Just as you aren't with brats and brat tamers and ddlg. No one is telling you to stop doing what you do in the kink world. You are always going to meet someone who has an issue with it. But being narrow minded and saying "well because some people say I'm an abuser, then you weak loving people can't be apart of what I think is bdsm"

Again times are changing. Being narrow minded is gross and will get you know where. Im not going to continue to argue with you after this because it's clear that we will not agree with each other. Just be safe with your kink and don't yuck on others yums


I didn't say anyone said in the thead.

I have been told that to my face and many a time online.

The problem is later generations are wanting what they want and screw everyone else. You want to be softer and gentler, fine. Go do it somewhere else. you want to be respected but don't want to respect others. Fine. I can play that game as well. You want me to respect your values, lets see you do it first.

I'll wait.