LongerJohnny(dom male)
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1 week ago •
Sep 28, 2024
1 week ago •
Sep 28, 2024
Topeka,
I like most of what you said in your original post, but there is a bit that I disagree with:
"Others say it is to satisfy their public exposure. I call bullshit on this one because they are amoung those who also enjoy the same activities. So there is not shame or feeling of "getting away with it".
First, exhibitionism is not necessarily based on whether or not the other people in the room are into the same things - which is fortunate because not everyone in every dungeon or at every event will likewise be an exhibitionist.
Generally, for exhibitionism to be realized it need only have people watching, irrespective of what those people actually think about it.
Exhibitionism cannot thrive in private; it needs many eyes focused on it. The reason why it can and does happen around and amongst others who enjoy similar activities is because we have to go to places where we are allowed to do those things.
Also, it does not require a feeling of "getting away with it" unless we're defining public exposure as something done in view of the unwitting vanilla public, which is nearly always non-consensual, as well as illegal.
Whatever "shame" a sub might feel may have nothing to do with what is viewable by others, but due to her view of herself, and that of her Dom. Plenty of subs enjoy that shame; my sub does, and we do love our emotional Sadism fun!
As to exhibitionism being only about a Dom's ego, and about him being able to say "Look at what I can do with my s type!" I definitely have some thoughts about that:
I get a lot of pleasure from making my sub face the crowd at our local place while wearing fresh, visible, humiliating marks of ownership that I have just left on her. But I am just as proud of her for enduring it as I am proud of myself for forcing her to. And so is she.
I love placing her in vulnerable situations, both emotional and physical, and I invite everyone to come watch her suffer in her shame and humiliation. But I am just as likely to think "look what she can handle!" as I am to think "look what I can do to her!"
If there is ever pure ego involved it would be outside the lifestyle, in everyday places. No matter where we go as soon as we walk in all eyes are immediately, often hungrily drawn to her. And I look at all of them with a smile that says "You may want her, look at her, think anything you like about her - but I am the only one who will ever own her!"
Ok, perhaps there is just a tiny bit of ego in that.
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