New To BDSM

New To BDSM

Brat1998 • Oct 11, 2018

My boyfriend and I are new to the bdsm lifestyle. Any new ideas for creative punishments?

Phanes​(dom male) • Oct 11, 2018

Some references:

http://bestslavetraining.com/theory-and-practive-slave-training/theory-slave-training/slave-punishment/ Slave Punishment & Discipline Training to Change Behavior:

https://www.lovense.com/bdsm-blog/bdsm-punishment-ideas SUBMISSIVE DISCIPLINE

https://bdsmtrainingacademy.com/ The BDSM Training Academy

Kara​(sub female)​{Dark Roast} • Oct 11, 2018

You need punishment why? There are "funnishments," which consist of an enjoyable form of activity like spanking, but actual punishment should be very rare and suit the offense. A submissive desires to please their Dominant and often is harder on themselves than the Dominant. What happens should teach a lesson and provide absolution.

edzified • Oct 13, 2018

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just james​(dom male) • Oct 13, 2018

If are eager to get to the kink and bondage then your missing all the wonderful things that come first. You will only enjoy a small amount of pleasure. Yet if kearn the life and all it has to offer first, you will reep all the rewards it has to offer.

OnlineJosh​(dom male) • Oct 13, 2018

Yes, many ideas! I would suggest testing your trust and things you are comfortable with first... a lot of things may seem hot and exciting conceptually... but in actuality they may be quite different. It is important to check circulation of blood every so often... if you or him are tied up. Think of an easy safe word to say... and if you have a gag on... think of a sound to make that counts as a safe word like "uh-uh". Tie them up at first and just feel things out you know... it is very easy to tell what each other likes... then expand on that.

LatexHer​(dom male) • Oct 16, 2018

As your relationship intensifies your trust in each other is due to increase and so will your experimentation. Use proper safe words and signals, as you two converse openly about your own personal desires, taste, and of course hard limits! The main point I always attempt to make with newbies is: Do what feels good but do not forget safety in any play! Don't push your partner further than their limits, and of course, always remember the afterglow!