Stigmatized Vocations

Stigmatized Vocations

MisterAshmodai​(dom male) • Nov 27, 2024

I was recently watching an episode of a television program where a running gag was how the various women of the cast were turned-off at the prospect of dating a practicing gynecologist, and considering a sudden and fairly imminent change to my career (and, by extension, life), I began to wonder.
Accordingly, out of academic and subjective curiosity, I would like to know how the members of this forum feel about those with stigmatized careers.
What do you consider to be stigmatized careers?
Would you consider variable levels of relationship with someone in such a position?
Do you think there are undeserved stereotypes?
Would you uphold particular boundaries due to the nature of a particular vocation?

Sincorrigible​(sub female) • Nov 27, 2024

What an interesting question and not something I've ever thought about.

I've been involved with people from all kinds of backgrounds and careers/vocations. From unemployed on long term sick leave to highly skilled professionals.

I don't think I'd feel strongly about, or stigmatise, any vocation, on the understanding that any specific health and safety requirements are met.

I think I'd feel far more strongly about that individual's attitude to vocation/relationship/life balance. Making sure we matched in terms of time/investment desires etc.

Miki​(masochist female) • Nov 27, 2024

There are quite a few careers that give some people pause, even if those in such careers leave their work "at the office". But if a potential partner is so hung up on what a guy, or gal does for a living, it begs the question: "Is this person right for me?" and "If (s)he is so hung up on what I do for a career, what else gives them the heebie-jeebies?"

If reservations about someone's career come up, it's a relationship red flag, and IMHO ONLY, no potential relationship is worth making drastic life changes for unless one is leaning towards such changes to begin with. It can only lead to resentment and regret down the road.

Of course the potential mate could be a once in a lifetime find... But why chance it?

That's just my personal take on such things. Most of the time a potential partner won't give a shit about what you (rhet) do for a living.

after all... there are many married dentists, garbage men, and medical examiners out there.

Cello Trance{for You} • Nov 27, 2024

oh my God, ladies… Never ever get involved with a Professional Musician, especially a Cellist…

What's the difference between a cello player and a large pizza?

A large pizza can feed a family of four

TheDemonFlood​(dom male) • Nov 27, 2024

I spent 20+ years in a field that is often stigmatized, either directly as it's a politicized industry or as a second order effect (well you work in X, so you must be a This).
Honestly, I don't care.
Not that I won't take time to converse with someone and actually discuss the stereotypes, assumptions, etc. vs who I actually am - I'm absolutely willing to do that. But, I don't have time for the people whose minds are made up already, and if they pass me by because of what I do or my industry? Good. Saves us both a lot of time and wasted energy.
I'm always happy when someone puts forth that they have strong feelings against certain vocations, because that also saves me time and energy: That's not someone I want to know.

I try hard not to stereotype or decide I know who someone is, or what someone is, based on their vocation or profession. It seems very silly to me, but I also have friends across a wide spectrum of careers, many stigmatized, and I know there are good people, worth knowing, in almost every job. Just like plenty of non-stigmatized jobs are rife with cunts.

That said, I do draw the line at tax agents and ATF officers...

Feral Equestrian​(switch female) • Nov 27, 2024

The 3 P’s to avoid: Police, Paramedics & Phirefighters… lol

As a dispatcher, I can say the stereotypes are definitely deserved. Although I have my theory on why they occur for one faction of the 3.

I would possibly still consider a relationship but they would have to go the extra mile to prove it because I’ve seen too much in my 10 years on the job.

Bluebanana​(masochist female) • Nov 27, 2024

Nah Politician would replace also your 3

Feral Equestrian​(switch female) • Nov 28, 2024

Well we can change it to the 4 P’s then… 🤣

Heart of Persephone​(sub female) • Dec 3, 2024

I was a Patrol Deputy, now I am a Dispatcher.

TopekaDom​(dom male) • Dec 3, 2024

You want something Stigmatized?

Try this: Being a Dom when working a low/mid level retail job.

There's something no one wants a part of. Everyone thinks every Dom (just the males mind you) should be a suited lawyer or Doctor or Cop or Fireman or what have you. If you are entry level, then you must not be very authoritative or forceful, or have any leadership abilities.