tributing..should mistress require for tribute and why

tributing..should mistress require for tribute and why

rainbowgirl​(dom female) • Jan 6, 2025

tributing..should mistress require for tribute and why

Should mistress require tribute from submissive online as their fee for time taken to go over their slave application ?

lambsone • Jan 6, 2025

We have had many discussions here about this in the forums. You'll also find cage administration articles addressing this issue. They warn against giving money to ANYONE who asks you for it. And to report anyone who is asking you to pay to be their sub or slave.

Don't be a victim of this type of scamming. I'm sure several people will chime in, especially those who have been victimized who can share what they experienced.

rainbowgirl​(dom female) • Jan 6, 2025

wow ok thanks , i am a new member

lambsone • Jan 6, 2025

This Link will get you to the cage rules. They are found in the Magazine section under Let's Get You Started. https://thecage.co/magazine,209.html

It would be good to read these and also read all the material in the get started category. That will give you a good foundation of knowledge and safety. From there you can explore anything else that catches your interest. You can also do a forum search with key words such as tribute, money, prodomme, findom, etc To find discussions about money given to dominants.

The magazine section also has articles on using professional services and safety tips to follow. So explore as much as you can and don't hesitate to ask questions when you have them. This is a very helpful community and glad that you are here. I'm not an official spokesperson, I just have a big mouth ... LOL.

TwinkleEyes​{n/a} • Jan 6, 2025

I think it’s a ? for someone to ask tribute while getting to know each other. To me it indicates that it will be one person paying the other person for their time throughout the dynamic. There are other websites for professionals to advertise these types of arrangements.

It also indicates a build-a-bear kinkster to me. AKA fake. Asking for some type of monitory gain for time is a business arrangement. ???

Just my personal thoughts.

TopekaDom​(dom male) • Jan 6, 2025

I think that if someone want to show themselves as a real scumbag, then sure "Tributes" are a great thing. Nothing says "Hey Look! I'm a pretend Domme and I don't know one end of a flogger from another!" than saying that someone should pay them money to pay attention to someone else.


But, hey, that is just my viewpoint. There may be some good findommes out there, but I have yet to meet one.

dollMaker​(dom male) • Jan 6, 2025

I have no issue with pro dom/dommes. If they are highly skilled, experienced and have chosen to put a value on their skills, even pro bottoms/subs, who are also highly skilled - there is a place in the kink world for those selling their skills, and who are paid for them - whether in person or online. Cage though, has a zero policy regarding paid pro activity here, of any type, plus commercial activity. Do it, get reported and you is gone.

I myself have never asked for or expected tribute, but I am not a pro I am a lifestyle person, and my rewards come from a very different place, non monetary ones.

In regards to whether someone becomes a sex worker, and pros are whether there is sexual activity or not (I have no issue with sex workers) a sex worker, that is a choice, but, if anyone is new, frankly, with no time served, no experience, no skills as such, well that feels potentially exploitive to me re asking for money, payment - for what? To my mind that then becomes a question of ethics. My advice, you want to be a pro, learn the craft, and it very much is a craft/art, see if you can get time with a pro domme and serve as an apprentice/assistant till you are skilled in the job.

Anyway good luck.

Re: tributing..should mistress require for tribute and why

Miki​(masochist female) • Jan 6, 2025

Unless you're looking for a "prodomme" , someone is trying to rip you off.

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Personally, if I were in such a situation (looking to be someone's sub, which I totally am not but just by way of example) and someone asked me for a "tribute" or any other veiled ask for cash, their "tribute" from me would be a hard kick in the ass. -- with a pointy shoe--

But hey, That's Just Me.

Steellover​(sub male) • Jan 7, 2025

There are pro-dommes who make a living from tribute from slaves/subs. This is gratifying to the subs and for many, they only way they will ever experience their fantasies in real time. While it may be gratifying to the subs it is only a job to the pro-dommes, and over time, subs may crave a more intimate and personal connection.

There is nothing wrong with professionals asking for tribute upon meeting up in public to pay for their time, but NOT before any meeting takes place, or as a condition of meeting in person. There are too many instances of subs sending tribute to potential dommes- and of course the "Dommes" simply take the tribute and then disappear, ghosting the prospective subs. That's how these scammers work. Thus, I would recommend subs never send money to anyone without meeting up with them in person first.

There IS something wrong with asking for tribute on this site. It's against the rules. So don't do it. Like most subs on this site, I am seeking a deep, intimate and personal connection; I've done the pay to play thing and I'm over it.

Villanelle​(staff) • Jan 7, 2025

I was going to remove this thread but I suspected we'd have some great responses (I was right)! Just to reiterate, we don't allow any sort of financial transactions on THE CAGE. That includes 'tributes', requests for gifts, subscriptions, selling content, etc. if you are asked for any of these things, please visit the profile and report the user with a screenshot if possible. This is a confidential process.

If you are curious about money and D/s, we have two great articles that were recently published in our Magazine:

https://thecage.co/magazine,252.html
https://thecage.co/magazine,253.html

There's lots of good information there, including how to spot a potential scam, the difference between financial domination and professional domination, and how to make sure you set limits around finances thatt are right for you (money IS NOT required for a D/s relationship and for many it's a hard limit).

I'll end by adding something we've tried to make clear in the above articles - that we have the utmost respect for legitimate professional dominants, who are often leaders and educators in their communities. Because we are a community based on personal interactions we do not allow promotion of any commercial services, but you will find a number of pro dommes here in a personal capacity.