Let’s talk Strap ons

Let’s talk Strap ons

PrincessLemon​(sub female)​{Owned } • Sep 8, 2024

Okay, so I have been googling good strap ons because I anticipate I will need one in the near future.
However google is just a robot and I figured I can literally just ask people.

So for a beginner what kind of strap should I buy?
Should I test it out first to see if they will like it?
Does the color matter? ?
Should I get an expensive one?

Any feedback or help would be very much appreciated! ? a girly needs help

bdsamworld​(sub female) • Sep 9, 2024

I personally like the harness kind. You might have to try out some to see how you like them. Some are bulky for others and perfect for someone else's body. And then I'd get a variety of sizes for the dildo. That's the fun part is just getting all the different sizes. Hehehe. You can also let your partner choose because everyone is different in what they like or what brings them pleasure there. It's also fun to get your partner involved and excited for it too I feel.

There are some Adam & Eve stores that have knowledgeable and friendly staff. If you don't feel comfortable walking into a place you might have to do some purchases/returning through Amazon or Love honey I've heard is pretty good with returns. Anything I've bought from them I haven't needed to return but I've heard others say they like them for that.

There are harness free ones, I personally don't feel comfortable with them. It just didn't work for my body type.

Miki • Sep 9, 2024

Harness ones worked best for me. But do consult the future recipient to get her input. (Or his-- I'm just writing from my own experience as I only humped other women, not into pegging dudes)


And on the receiving end I loved getting fucked hard with a strap-on with less emphasis on length (though always nice) but more emphasis on girth and either ridged or bumpy. Those sent me though the ceiling every time.

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As for walking into a "toy store" one really ought not be "embarassed"--- consider the employees.. they sure as hell don't mind being seen working in those places.

As for Amazon and all that, you can get those there and make sure it's in a plain brown-wrapped box. No sense having the fucking postman deliver a box with a display picture of the thing on the outside and a likely blah on the box, "Your nights are about to get a whole lot better!" But of course I'd think they all ship in the notorious "discrete brown paper-wrapped box"--- But be sure to make sure.

I never did look into the "returns" aspect. Probably only if the toy is still in its original wrapping inside the mysterious box , unopened as in Partner sees it and decides it won't fly. Otherwise I wouldn't think they would accept returns (except in cases of manufacturing defects) that were used, regardless of how much one clams they sterilized the thing.

Ohh, yeah, the asshole postman.. A lot of not-naughty things come in those plain wrapped boxes and bags but the fuck still gives me a greasy smile if I happen to be around when he delivers it. Sometimes what I'd give for a small dog with very sharp teeth.

(Most already know, big dogs are scary but little dogs will shred your ass in no time if you piss them off)

djinni​(dom female)​{smplylaura} • Sep 9, 2024

For me the most important part is the got on me and whether or not you can get the correct angles and such. My favorite is from a company called RodeOH, and I like the brief panty style. They come with an extra pad that will help with comfort and angles. I’ve had some poorly made harness styles and they just didn’t feel secure enough.

I recommend going to a fetish/kink leather shop if you want to go with a harness. They will make it to your measurements. Buying a cheaply made one on Amazon or whatever might tell you what you’d want differently in a quality product and you can get a custom made that will fit great.

As far as dildos to put into the harness, that’s such a personal thing. Talk to your partner or shop together. Again, quality is important. Get something that is body safe and phthalate free… no one needs what can happen otherwise. Size, length and shape is subject to both the giver and receiver. Trial and error will come into place with both the strap and the dildo.

BigBoybutbaby​(sub male) • Jun 28, 2025

I am curious to find out if someone out there is willing to attach a 18” Long Leo strapon to themselves and make me kneel down in front of them and let them have their way with my mouth. Wanting to know if it’s possible to deepthroat all of it…. Got it halfway myself, needing some subtle support of my head while they push it deeper and deeper down my throat. Wanting to know how it feels to take something like that all the way…

MidSummerDream​(neither female)​{BothHold🗝} • Jun 30, 2025

Some women strap on one that tickles the clit so she can cum inside the bun of her partner. Both people get a g spot of love. I believe if it's shown right you just tell someone it's good for both if you find one that can please both no matter what sex you are both are doing it for the passion of each other.

Bisubalan​(sub male) • Jul 4, 2025

I like a harness that holds a large or inflatable dildo iny butt.
But it has to hold it on me securely because I like to go out while wearing a.
dildo or large plug.. Im also into cross dressing and wearing a toy with a harness
under my dress or skirt. I also like being a sub for a woman and letting her have her way
with me. Sounding my urethra and dilation toys are great too.I have some kinky
fantasies of like to live out and help any dom woman fulfill hers too.
Please use my email to contact me.
Thank you all.
Bisubalan

Kelpi • Jul 7, 2025

Yes get the harness as it holds in place better and fits better. Look inside toy stores for what you want then see if you can get a better deal online. If you need a lube I like using coconut oil as it has a nice scent and is good inside and out, Makes a great massage oil. Also cheaper and no calories.

House Talion​(dom male) • Jul 8, 2025

If it's kot expe give it's not good enough for you. Get something with multiple changing shafts for that extra option.

Blackapple​(sub male) • Oct 28, 2025

Coconut oil works good