SubStanChill(sub male)
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3 months ago •
Oct 21, 2025
That 12 hours with someone else on one of your few days off is big. It’s something like that where it seems less like you have an open relationship and more like he sees you as a casual hook up.
It also seems like you’ve resigned yourself to accepting that a D/s dynamic implies an open relationship when it doesn’t. Seems like if you had your way, you would prefer the relationship be closed with maybe a couple exceptions. Also, not being able to have sex even once without a condom, sounds less like he doesn’t do boundaries, and more like he doesn’t have self control. Try this thought experiment. A family member or your best friend dies. What do you think this guy would do? If it’s not changing his schedule to be near you, then you should real consider the nature of your relationship |
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dominatio(dom male)
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2 months ago •
Oct 27, 2025
I agree with what everybody is mentioning. I will just add one more thing. The fact that he is a Dom doesn't in any way justify taking you in that direction here. In fact because he is the Dom and is taking responsibility it makes it worse, as is his responsibility that you are safe both physically and mentally. And it doesn't look like he is taking good care of that. Only you can know if the relationship is worth it and good for you, but it looks it is pretty clear what is the price of admission you would have to pay to stay. Best of luck.
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CapnRick(dom male)
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2 months ago •
Oct 28, 2025
"He Can't do boundaries??" RED FLAG, girl !!
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darlingdiana(sub female){Master Ron}
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2 months ago •
Nov 11, 2025
I find it would be one of those things where i wouldn’t know until i tried it. I am not put off by bi sexuality in females or males. Having said that/ i find no attraction or desire on my end in same sex interactions. I am completely and hopelessly straight. In this case it would be a Dom with one of us at a time or myself watching him interact with us and us interacting with him. Pretending to be into a female or Him with a male, when I am not turned on at all, would ruin it for all involved. With 2 males, i would be into interacting with both but it would not turn me on to watch them interact period. Again, even with these things put into place, i would not know if it was for me or not until trying and seeing how i feel after a trail period. If i felt more than ok with him having separate or interactive partners together, and or if i enjoyed those same practices for myself in the dynamic. I think before ruling it out- there’s only 1 way to know. Even with separate Dom’s a submissive may have it be an absolute fulfilling and enriched experience that leaves you feeling completely secure, confident and happy . Whereas another may have you regretting ever having “gone there” or considering such a gong show. Its a must sample each new party platter type thing to know for sure!
Remember you are never obligated and always encouraged. Best, darling diana |
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Heart of Persephone(sub female){owned}
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2 months ago •
Nov 14, 2025
Re: Open dynamics Alex y wrote: Curious for those out there in open dynamics, how you make it work. What are important things to keep in mind? How you handle your partner needing to experience the freedom sooner than you may be ready ? How you stomach conversations about what they are doing? Etc… I feel quite lost. I have done the open thing before , but put no actual effort into it. Just 2 people sleeping with everyone but each other . It’s something I have enjoyed, however I am forcing myself to be ready , when I’m not, because I don’t really have the choice if I want to remain in the D/s I am in. Any and all advice is quite welcome
You always ALWAYS ALWAYS have a choice, if that is taken from you, that is abuse and a control tactic. Why would you want to remain in a D/s dynamic if you are being stripped of your choice and your voice being silenced? |
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K y i v{Walking}
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2 months ago •
Nov 14, 2025
Lots of good advice posted.
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