► RefinedLace wrote:
You don't have to write them back. No message is a message you can delete like it never happens like you've been busy living your life.
Maybe changing your status as a submissive just writes you are Full Submissive but looking for a Dominant hand at first see if you vibe and click that you only switch if was the right person even someone that was on the same page. You can also leave the sub/switch thing in your bdsm test on the site, let them get to know you and see where it goes. You don't have to put too much in to allow the flow to come to you. or write in your blog. Ones just looking for force desperate or just looking to get off on it not everyone kink is the same they need to respect your kink and wishes that why you don't have to message them back not everyone is for everyone they can't force a connection it gotta be in the same vibration at the right time if it's not the same it's not the same.
I squelched the flow of Inbox Flotsam a bit by eliminating visibility of my "role" as displayed next to my name on my Profile and in forum posts. I'm still "registered" as "masochist female", but on profile preferences I toggled the "hide your role from the animals in here" option-- not in so many words of course.
(But that would be a hoot)