CatLover(switch female) |
3 years ago •
May 17, 2021
Help me please
3 years ago •
May 17, 2021
CatLover(switch female) • May 17, 2021
Hey if anyone can help me I would be soo thankful-
I'm in a long term relationship with someone I truly love, we live together and we're both switches. We've been dating for a year and a few months. I was new to bdsm when we started dating, and I loved being submissive. I loved letting go of control and having him do whatever he wants with me. At some point my mindset unfortunately changed and I started feeling weak and hurt every time I was sub. (I have a lot of childhood abuse trauma from the house I grew up in and it's hard to physically let go of control and trust someone when trying to test my limits and experiment with bdsm. + I an unable to achieve orgasm with a partner, also due to trauma and emotional issues) I am starting therapy soon but for now- I wanted to see if maybe someone here could give some advice on the matter- I really want to understand how to enjoy being submissive and letting go of control instead of feeling terrible from being used, humiliated, etc. I don't want to live my life having only vanilla sex or being only dominant. I WANT to enjoy being submissive really bad- I just want to solve whatever's causing me to only feel bad and weak when being dominated instead of enjoying the situation and serving my dom well. Would really appreciate an answer, if anyone has one. Thank you❤️ |
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