BULL - Anyone Have Experience With One?

BULL - Anyone Have Experience With One?

lambsone • Feb 4, 2025

I've been seeing the term "BULL" over at Fet for a short while now. I've never heard it mentioned here. Today I looked it up and became somewhat acquainted with what it was. It seems to apply to poly or open relationships mostly I think.

Does anyone have experience with this in some way? If so has it been positive for you? Are there benefits to introducing a BULL into your relationship? Are there downsides that you may or may not have experienced. Is It similar in some way to a Unicorn? Are there professional Bulls? Anything else you want to mention about it?

TopekaDom​(dom male) • Feb 4, 2025

Now while I have dealt with a great deal of bullshit, the best I can figure is a male (either side of the collar) to show up and fuck someone. I've always thought of them as sorta like the mechanical bull you see in Urban Cowboy.

MissBonnie​(dom female)​{oz} • Feb 4, 2025

(me)Being Femdom bulls are used a lot with cucking (cuckoldry) they also are frequently used with sissy play . It's not overly my thing so something i steer clear off. While I am poly and Femdom, I don't cuck. I do have friends that "hotwife" (this is non femdom or BDSM related)
I can see the appeal for those, either with the fetish or using it as a Humiliation tool. It can have a place if that is your kink. External to BDSM in a "hotwife" situation I (personally) can't grasp how it aides a relationship when it's not a Fetish.

Steellover​(sub male) • Feb 5, 2025

As mentioned, it is basically a man who satisfies other people's wifes/girlfriends in ways their normal romantic/life partner cannot. Either because they are a better lover, or (more often) have larger "Equipment" for the job.

It is a touchy dynamic and not for everyone. The "Bull' of course, gets to enjoy sex with other people's wives/girlfriends. The female gets to enjoy sex with another partner, and as they say, variety is the spice of life (for some people anyway) while the cuck, if he is willing and is truely into it, may get off on the voyeuristic aspects of it, or the humiliation/submissive kink dynamic of it.

What makes it "touchy" is that it ISNT for everyone, and even if it is, the female partner may decide, if she's bored/unsatisfied with her current partner, to simply dump him completely in favor of the "Bull" rather than keep both relationships going at once. But the fantasy is common, even if the reality is not- especially for submissive male types.

TopekaDom​(dom male) • Feb 5, 2025

Here is a question:

Has anyone done any role play with a Bull?

You get a bunch of hucows lined of and have the bull service them in a fenced in pen?

lambsone • Feb 5, 2025

Yes Topeka answers from those with experience would be preferable as that would be direct knowledge and I certainly welcome that.

To all:

The word BULL for me conjures up a powerful image which may or may not follow what a bull in a relationship actually is as described in the comments above and also in my research.

I think there is also a danger in introducing a bull into a relationship, emotionally and psychologically. Attachment can take place over time which can endanger an otherwise healthy relationship, but that would be for the couple to hopefully thoroughly discuss ahead of time and reevaluate over the course of their use of a bull.

Anyway, it was a new concept for me and I thought it was worth understanding it. I would not consider it for various reasons but then again I have very little long term experience with a partner and don't know much about problems regarding sexual intimacy and fulfillment/need.

Little Vixie​(sub female)​{Mgh30} • Feb 7, 2025

So Bulls are men that are willing to fuck couples and unicorns are women that are willing to fuck couples. Its more oriented towards swingers.

lambsone • Feb 7, 2025

@Little Vixie

I guess you could say that as a possible explanation.

jillyvalentine​(switch female) • Feb 16, 2025

My husband wants us to get a bull so badly. In fact, his fantasy is to have me leave him and move in with bull. He is a switch too and in bed becomes sub to wife and bull (in his fantasy as we haven't done anything IRL yet).

MountaintopMaster • Feb 17, 2025

I would strongly advise being very careful what he (or you) wishes for; of course I know I'm likely preaching to the choir here, but I'll say it anyways... Before actually doing anything along these lines, make sure that you're on the same page with regard to your long-term relationship plans. And talk about all of the worst "what ifs", just in case.

Is he willing to discover that you actually prefer living with someone else, and you decide you want to make this fantasy permanent?

Or, at the opposite end of the spectrum, do you both confirm repeatedly to each other that this is just a fantasy, and there's no way you'd ever actually want to spend more than a short time apart, just for the fun of it, before you know for certain that you'll miss each other dearly and be eager to conclude the fantasy...?

Either way, if you know each other very well, and this is something that the two of you both want to experience for the mutual benefit of each of you, then and only then would I suggest proceeding, with various safety measures in place, of course.