ElleFire wrote:
Where is the line? How much honesty and openness is the right amount to ask for? When does it become none of my business? When does it become too much neediness?
I always believed that honesty is the best policy. In ancient times, when I had a profile (on a different BDSM website), it was a tell all (personal characteristics, lifestyle & home environment, social, political and religious leanings, routines and habits, and how I intended to interact with my significant other. Of course it included sexual proclivities. Everything I could think of, leaving no mystery.
Apparently, that was a bad idea. I had that profile on three different websites over a period of at least 20 years and never got a bite. So, there must have been at least one thing in there that a reader didn't like, so they dismissed all that they did like.
Now, I have a very abbreviated profile. 'Cause I just don't care anymore.
Perhaps the best tactic to use is to leave off some things, get lucky and begin a relationship. Then when the girl discovers something she doesn't necessarily care for, she may say to herself, oh well, I can live with it (unless it's a total deal-breaker). I thought my system would avoid all that. It sure did.