This is not a Uti or anything I am sure. I actually have pretty good control and not in any risk zone. It is more just the forced aspect.
I did find this article which explains that the same muscles that contract the vagina, contracts the urethra, thus having to pee is and can he very normal (you may even do it without realzing)
https://www.quora.com/Why-do-I-have-an-urge-to-urinate-when-I-masturbate
Interesting read, it explains men's ability as well, and the health benefits of peeing immediately after sex (or soon thereafter)
Not sure it answers my question on if there is a way to avoid one without the other, or of it just takes practice. Something I am not opposed to putting in the long hours for 😁
This would be a non-issue if I enjoyed humiliation, which I guess has a certain element of belinging in Slave and servitude. Just not something I am ready to bring to the table yet, as a personal preference.
I thought of putting this in a blog, but I will edit it here. Ladies (or all those with vaginas) please try and understand your bodies. I was a little thrown off that one of my suggestions was "Talk to your Dom about it" like he is supposed to know how my body works more than I am entitled to know. Upon researching this is something that I didn't know, why would I expect him to know? Also, as ING pointed out, there is not a ton on female science looking into these things... why? Because female sexual organs being used for anything other than reproduction has not gotten the attention it deserves. Men barely know how a period works, you think they are going to understand your passing organs when we don't even?