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Dominant women on the rise?

Dom Pinnacle​(dom male)
7 months ago • Jun 10, 2025
Dom Pinnacle​(dom male) • Jun 10, 2025
NarahPrimal wrote:
I personally find that the majority of Dominants I have come across are insta Doms or bed room only or simply kinksters. I think comming across anyone who truly values the lifestlye and understands it is a rare thing these days.


It's indeed rare. I'm dominant where it pertains to personal relationships with women. Nothing to do with kink but I'm dominant there as well. I do enjoy role play sometimes where she takes control. I love the term "insta dom". Reminds me of microwaving a hot pocket😅.
Dom Pinnacle​(dom male)
7 months ago • Jun 10, 2025
Dom Pinnacle​(dom male) • Jun 10, 2025
Miki wrote:
Hey, Dom Pinnacle!! (Psst, I still can't find you on your brand of wine on any shelves, even in the backwater 'burbs... I still can only find that Dom Perignon crap) But you knew that!

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So, onto the original thought: Maybe, maybe not (more dominant women than before) ...but personally I have seen more assertive women for sure, but that's not something that happened overnight. It's been a trend for a while now.

In my case I'm more assertive than maybe five or ten years ago-- definitely independent to the point of being very content living by myself (roomie don't count, she's more gone than here because of her work, and even when we're around at the same time we do our own thing without interfering or even opining on the doings of the other) -- not getting into relationships and so-forth-- yet I most certainly am no dominant in the BDSM sense.


Oh how I miss that wit of yours. My brand of Dom? Here's a clue....it ain't in the burbs. Keep lookin'.

What you said about being assertive is true. I've dated an assertive woman that knew how to fall back into her submissive sweetness at the right time. But I was too young to handle her little dominant kids. Being that I wasn't their father, I couldn't discipline the little rascals. And I really didn't want to. But she was a lovely lady. I hope you are well.
TopekaDom​(dom male)​{Chaos }Verified Account
7 months ago • Jun 10, 2025
TopekaDom​(dom male)​{Chaos }Verified Account • Jun 10, 2025
What gets me about Some Dom Men getting all up tight about Domme Women (yeah leave me alone, I'm not feeling well and this makes the most sense. Just go with it) is the s types the Domme Women are most likely male submissives (yes there are those Domme Women who want female s type, and female s type who want Domme Women, by I bet the better than average is Domme Women to male submissives)

(now this also does not include non binary. Being old, I am not quite sure where that fits into the equation yet. But I am getting there)


(Also oh: Trans women are women and trans men are men, so they get included in my original statement)


The only thing I can figure out is certain Dom Men get pissy about Domme Women is they see it as a "lost" opportunity to engage with someone of the opposite gender. Which really is just a pile of shit.

I have known a great deal of Domme Women and I have never seen any of them "switch" (well there is one, but that is another story)

So no, I don't think there are more than before

I just think Dom Men are become more resentful.
Steellover​(sub male)
7 months ago • Jun 10, 2025
Steellover​(sub male) • Jun 10, 2025
^That sucks. If someone isn't your type then I would hope people would have the maturity to just move on, or at least, write them off as "Good person but not my type." I love and respect submissive females, most of them I know are wonderful people, but I know deep down that any kind of romantic relationship I try to have with one would be doomed from the start- so I move on. Dominant men trying to sustain relationships with dominant females would likely just lead to toxic relationships of clashing dynamics, butting heads, and sexual unfulfillment.
Bunnie
7 months ago • Jun 11, 2025
Bunnie • Jun 11, 2025
What I see more of now is that “meekness” has become a thing of the past. Younger women seem to have a much better grasp of who they are and what they want and the type of behaviour they’re willing to/not willing to, tolerate from men.
How that translates is up to the individual. Do I personally see it as Dominance? No. There’s a lot more nuance to Dominance than being assertive.
Kelpi
7 months ago • Jun 14, 2025
Kelpi • Jun 14, 2025
I think your about half right. There are more women who want to be dom in their relationships but I don't think it is the type of domination we have here. I read in the paper once were women in L.A. wanted men to be more in touch with their feelings (metro sexuals). 10 years later they were leaving L.A. to find real men. Today you see women tell men "we are going to eat here we are going to do this and we are goingn to do things my way" . It's a first date and I am not going to let you eat lobster and steak just to have you tell me your not feeling it and walk off.

There are guys who want to be dominated and if it is for you great but when I ask her out and she tells me we are going here and doing this you better have your wallet out and be ready pay. Most of all if you want to be head of the house then be the breadwinner and don't think I have to pay for everything including your nails hair and makeup.
1crazygirl​(sub female)
7 months ago • Jun 20, 2025
1crazygirl​(sub female) • Jun 20, 2025
I don't think there is "A Rise In Dominate Women" @ Dom Pinnacle​(dom male)...strong, independent, thinking women have been around since the dawn of time.
There is a "rise" of humans on the face of earth, so more women, definite rise of exposure to select communities such as BDSM, rise of communication between people using outlets to communicate with ambiguity & media...social and others giving negative and positive BDSM Lifestyle information.
Basically strong women have been around forever...sex has been as well. Humans are different.
So I'm deducing that back way way 5000 years ago even longer than that there were a few Dommes and subs of both sexs who adored them. Along with vanilla dominate women who were loved.