|Global Goddess(sadist female)||
High Pedestal and Expectations?
3 years ago • Aug 17, 2020
Global Goddess(sadist female) • Aug 17, 2020
As a woman who feels as though she's finally linked all of the puzzle pieces together and realized I'm meant to be in the D/s lifestyle, I have some concerns that I'm trying to solve by arming myself with education, but sometimes asking advice can be the most helpful.
I've always had groups of men following me around and shamelessly submitting for me in public as a way of winning my affections (before I even knew anything about this world), so there's no doubt that I'm comfortable in the Dominant role or that men naturally understand this. But, being brand new to this lifestyle, (and again, even before when I could see how excited men were in their desperation to win me over), I wonder... what are they expecting? I can't help but suffer from the insecurity that men have always put me on a super high pedestal.
Maybe just allowing them to be my sub is exciting for them, but my fear is that once people realize I'm a normal human, the magic and "fantasy" will be gone. I think this worry is exaggerated due to the fact that I'm a musician, and I've experienced it many times even through that. The whole "Star Struck" thing that eventually fades once they realize that I'm actually real.
I don't by ANY means pretend to be someone I'm not, and I'm not a super model or anything either... But sub men are drawn to me and the is the main thing that's holding me back. I stop men in their tracks because I think that I'm not actually what they want.
The question that I'm finally arriving at, is for Dommes, what is it that gives you confidence and keeps you from having imposter syndrome? I know experience will help with this, but as a newbie I'm curious if you have any other things that personally worked for you to sorta get the initial ball rolling. So that not only do the subs think you're worthy of being someone's owner or Mistress, but you believe it yourself. I'd also ask any subs what it is that makes them so attracted to and to stay with a Domme?
Thank you to anyone who made it through this book lol