1 week ago • 02/18/2021 2:47 am
BlackEarthDuke(dom male) • 02/18/2021 2:47 am
This is a thread specifically for sharing styles and experiences of ethical non-monogamy, both for enjoyment and for education purposes. The term ‘non-monogamy’ covers a broad range of relationship practices, and as in any pursuit clarification can be helpful.
I have been ethical non-monogamous for over a decade now. My nesting partner (the partner I live with) and I were together for three years before deciding to explore non-monogamy; eventually settling on polyamory. We engage in informal play scenes, mostly Primal play with a bit of service submission. Outside of kink, we share a general vanilla life and a deep spiritual connection (we are developing a tantric and earth reverent lifestyle).
They have two other partners, both vanilla (one is part of a four person polycule, the other has no other partners); and a Daddy Dom who appeals to the little in them, which is something I am not interested in, or particularly good at doing.
I have another partner who shares my love of the morbid and macabre. She and I engage in excessively violent play sessions when we spend time together. We also enjoy urban exploration, dark tourism, and anything to do with serial killers.
My other partner is in a happy vanilla marriage.
My two paramours (partners, as opposed to metamours who are the partners of my partners and have no intimate relationship with me) and I have had several partners over the last ten years, ranging from short flings to long term relationships, ending for one reason or another; just like the passage of monogamous relationships, without the periods of lost support and loneliness.
In our form of ethical non-monogamy, the only stop stipulations placed on introducing new partners is that the good of the whole group should be considered before engaging someone new.
It may seem convoluted or emotionally difficult, but it has been as liberating as it has been rewarding.