1 month ago • 04/06/2021 8:47 pm
SageFlame • 04/06/2021 8:47 pm
Submission and Sapiosexuality:
I am submissive and also a sub. Serving and caring for others brings me deep satisfaction. As a sub, it is also intoxicating, throttle up! The sapiosexual side of me is braided in here as well.
What I have learned about myself is that ,number one, a thriving conversation is necessary for primal attraction or interest. Generally speaking, I adore getting to know people; hearing their stories etc. But if there isn't the exchange of thought it won't go beyond casual friendship. Nothing I planned, that's just how I am.
Additionally, sharing deep thoughts that open a window to the heart is an intimate expression. This is arousing to me also. When I say deep I don't mean clinical regurgitation but an authentic idea, perspective or understanding of the topic being discussed. ( bringing something to the table) How someone shares holds as much weight as the content. Intelligence with self importance is like listening to vomit; I back away.
The door to my submission is connection. The way to connection is thriving conversation, this conversation needing intelligence on both ends. Certainly not a model neccessary to follow, only my personal experience.
My submission isn't to a dominant. I submit to a person. It just so happens I respond to intelligent Doms who can also be vulnerable enough trust me with their true self.
Q. - " But Sage, haven't you been so hot n bothered you just needed a ramming it didn't matter what their intelligence?
A. - " Once, yes, but it left me wanting still. Live and learn. I need the whole shebang."