Ice Girl's public thoughts.

Sir Wolfe​(dom male) - The reason why people are being positive is because they're trying to be supportive, in most cases being positivity is being supportive. Try not to take their positivity as an insult to the reality you are experiencing. It is true that they are implying you are wrong for feeling so hopeless but they do not mean it as an insult.
I do not know the answers, or even if there are answers, to any of your struggles. But I will tell you that a submissive focusing on her needs is a self-fulfilling prophecy of dissatisfaction and frustration. It is likely as frustrating as a dominant focusing solely on his needs. It seems to me that subs need to focus their service to someone they love. And that a dominant needs to focus their concern to someone who loves them.. People were made to connect with other people and some of us need to connect in very specific ways. I assure you, the fact that you know as much about what you want and what you don't want as you do makes others very jealous... Even if they won't tell you so.

IceGirl​(switch female) - Main issues in most aspects of my life I'm a beast. i am a competition level martial artist I work as an EMT saving lives i volunteer at search and rescue I build my own computers do my own networking I have three degrees as I work on becoming a doctor.

Why in the fuck does doming feel so unforgiving to me why do I die inside when I doming some chick wishing it was me and know it can never be that way.

I don't care what my sexuality speaks to me my attitude refuses to cave to my nature this is the core dilemma I hate this aspect of myself and if I could kill it once and for all I would.

I am miserable in this aspect of my life but clearly sex and relationships aren't my priority. I just wish I lived in a universe where I can have everything but who does.

CSI - I have no idea why this would be interpreted as you being hopeless or why a "submissive focusing on her needs is a self-fulfilling prophecy of dissatisfaction and frustration". I find when you know what you want and you won't accept less, it raises the bar. You either will have sex or you won't. It does not need to be ascribed a positive or negative status. For me there is also no meaningless sex. I found it to be pointless. But also know there has been ups and downs with desires (as you have mentioned in previous blogs). So for those saying they are sure it isn't over have probably experienced something much like you described and have found satisfaction again. Just my two cents.

Sir Wolfe​(dom male) - I look at the relationship between a Sub and a Dom as a kin to a yin yang symbol, where one is not complete without the other. A Sub needs to give that power away to feel healthy and empowered etc. And a Dom needs to receive that power to feel wanted and satisfied, etc. If a Dom focuses solely/primarily on what he wants to feel then the sub is not likely to ever really feel cherished, important, etc. What do we think might happen if the sub focuses primarily on what "she" feels?

CSI - Is that a question, a rhetorical statement, or are you attempting to mansplain or be condescending?

IceGirl​(switch female) - Interesting points here

IceGirl​(switch female) - I just have given up this isn't some plea for help more a thanks for all the support but really try not to worry about it too much life has already backed me into a corner where I just don't see me making such an earth shattering change so it's better to just be asexual and have intimate friends.

I can talk about how I feel on here because I'm not gonna meet people here its just a place for me to kinda vent and say things i cannot to people in my direct circle free from judgment.

I was raised Catholic as well and went to Catholic school so yeah the fact I also was brainwashed to think sex without marriage is sinful doesn't help either.

CSI - That definitely doesn't help.

Moonlit Knight - Catch more flies if you use honey.

IceGirl​(switch female) - I don't have honey because I'm a take no prisoners alpha in almost every aspect of my life. I am about as Honey outside the bedroom as getting kicked in the face.

B L O N D I E​(sub female) - No one is trying to imply that you are wrong or that there is anything wrong with how you are feeling. They are just maybe trying to show you that there is hope. Trust me I spent decades suicidally depressed because I felt the same way you do now. The only difference between saying, "I can't" and "I can" is you. Just because you aren’t happy doesn't mean it can't be done. People are just trying to give you hope and support. It gets better, but only if you want it to and make a decision to make it better. If you decide it's going to be like this forever, it will be.