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TieHardTwo

Our kink family adventures - thoughts on bondage.
4 years ago. October 29, 2020 at 4:43 PM

Little handy hint for meeting inexperienced players or if you are an inexperienced player - be careful with the question 'what are you into?'. A few times we have been contacted by guys who tell us what 'they are into'. This can mean different things to different people. Too often inexperienced subs mean 'I have fantasized about', 'I like the idea of' or 'I like porn that contains'. We have learned it is always worth checking whether they have actually done what they claim to be into. Happy to work with inexperience and let people try new things but we need to know actual, real world likes/dislikes as well.

Here is a random picture of one of our subs which has nothing whatsoever to do with this post - but is quite pretty -if I say so myself....

ribbonbaby​(sub female){Guarded} - Lol. That is a good distinction to make. That would put my interests list sky high, and experience down to nearly nothing 😅🤣
4 years ago
Sunshinegirl​(sub female) - Very true! I’ve talked to Doms who say the same thing, “what they’re into”, but they have zero experience with said activity. I think it’s important for everyone to ask what their EXPERIENCE level is, rather than what they fantasize about. Awesome pic too 😁👍🏻
4 years ago
TieHardTwo - It is a very, very kind sub that will let a Dom experiment and try new things. We have a couple of regulars and what we call 'measuring' - when we want to design a new piece of kit or try something technical we have not done before we are ask one of our regulars if they wouldn't mind getting 'measured' for something - these are often great scenes and can have a really lovely dynamic because the sub is more participating in feedback during the scene - but I will admit - we only do this with guys we already have a good relationship with ;)
4 years ago
TieHardTwo - Just be open about levels of experience and be clear about what you'd like to try but haven't done. A lot of doms are happy to let people experiment - and good ones will know the right order to try things in too!
4 years ago
HGB​(sub female){Scottish M} - I see where it being relevant. One knowing there body for rope is important. I saw your pictures on your profile they are impressive, wish I had the ability to have that setup. A rigger would be nice too.
It's very important to know actual experience. And also know that just because someone says they are experienced doesn't mean they are or should be trusted. Vetting is important to me.
4 years ago
TieHardTwo - Couldn't agree more!
4 years ago

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