Yesterday, a good friend of mine (i call her ma <3), called me very upset about the week long visit that she had with her 40 something yr old daughter.
She was crying, her cleaned her apt without asking, went through her things to look for a bill and paid it without asking if there was anything she could do for her mother. Unplugged her computer so she could plug hers in (so she could work from home) and now she couldn't get it to work and on top of that, she messed with a package that ma was preparing to mail out the next day.
I was able to calm her down, working through each situation step by step. Her daughter used to live her with her, but when ma moved her daughter had to get her own place, or so we thought. She vented a little while longer and I told her that her daughter was way out of line and disregarded any boundaries set. How could you go through your mother's drawers to look for a bill, just ask end of story.
Maybe a few hours later, my daughter came and said that someone was her to see me, i wasn't expecting anyone, and wasn't told her who it was either. Turns out it was her daughter coming to pick up the baby blanket that i made. We spoke for a bit about z and her sarcastic ways lol. Now I thought, since she was here, she probably stopped by Lee's apt to get the blanket since he was supposed to have taken it to ma last month, and that's how she ended at my place. Now, do you think that was the end? nope. IT GETS BETTER
Ma calls me again later on that night highly pissed. Her daughter shows up without the blanket and the medication. LIke wtf!!!!! So i gave her my take on what i thought was going to happen. Wrong again smh. So now I get more information of what is going on and I'm like enough is enough,this isn't right. So my suggestions were......First, tell your daughter that no she can not live there if she loses her apt, you're 60 something and you have done all you could do for her. Don't let her in when she rings the buzzer for you to let her in (found out neighbors let her in) SEE THE PATTERN? Secondly, as far as lee, let his ass go *FACE PALM* he doesn't appreciate what you're doing for him. You went and got him a new phone, you constantly calling to check to see if he's ok, how's he feeling etc. I don't have the heart to tell her he's too busy chasing my ass. I also told her, if someone knocks on your door and tells you they want to dick you down, LET THAT MOTHERFUCKER IN!!!!!! Life is too short messing with his ass *FACE PALM* at least i made her laugh, but she understood it's the truth. Don't even waste the time or money to come here to spend time with him if all he is going to say is I DON'T KNOW HA HA. I also, made it clear that her daughter is stuck in caregiver mode and that since she's living a life of celibacy she feels that ma should live the same way as well. FUCK THAT!!!!!! lol She was so fed up with her daughter that she opened the door in the nude lol GO MA!!!!
It was shown to me that my new path is in social work and no longer accounting. The one thing that bothers me the most is that, how can I advise someone on bettering their lives when I have trouble using that same advice for myself? That would make me a hypocrite and that's not what I want to be. Just because other people are fine with being hypocrites, I'm not. Plus, I need to be careful for what i need clarity on in my life, I keep getting the same thing over and over again lol but in different different people.
