okay big sigh...
i have seen on a few profiles now that a sub is in no way in charge. That a Dom has control and in charge of every aspect of the dynamic and its a woman's natural place to not be in charge and be by there side.
i would kindly suggest people re exam in there wording.
A sub although on her or his knees is actually the one with the control. Not the Dom.
i know im going to get so much flack for this.
A sub can stop at any point. I do mean ANY point they choose to. Which is why a sub is in control.
A Dom has power over nuances and situation. A sub has control as that situation can not take place without there yes there consent or happiness otherwise its stopped. Infact a sub can guide a Dom with amber green and red.
Wanting a woman in her 'natural place' to wait on you isn't a Dom unless the sub agrees....
seeing a pattern here?
This is not the place for egocentric wanting to be waited, women to second class, on needing to control everything with possessive intent. That is not BDSM.
on many Dom profiles, this is how its coming across even if its not meant that way, i would kindly think about rewording.
waiting for the first arrow to fly.