I like adventure. I'm a bit uniquely flavored and I like me that way. My Dom/husband and I keep our minds and door open to a like-minded adventurous third who is attracted to us and the lifestyle we are building. I don't swing. We're not looking for play partners. We are looking for, if it happens, a third who wants to mutually invest in an equitable relationship that resembles nothing as much as a three-legged stool with a nice, even, level seat.
So all it has been so far is mate poachers. That come on with the whole "I'm looking for a thruple. I'm bi. I'm more physically attracted to women. I want to be submissive to you BOTH." and within a day or two are talking more to the D side, talking more about his pleasure and his preferences, and on, and on, and a thousand more cues that what they really want to do is address their issues with bad experiences and self-esteem issues is to drive a wedge and leave with one, usually him.
I'm a very well-educated psychotherapist. So well that I'm in a partnership because I want to be, not because I need to be. I love people, and am fascinated with what makes them tick. I've studied it exclusively for over 30 years. I'm open-minded; I don't mind helping someone we're attracted to work through the traumatic past they have, which is so common to people in this lifestyle, myself included. But don't take kindness for weakness or stupidity. I can afford the risk of an open relationship. The chances of you successfully pulling the wool over my eyes in this area are slim to none.
So come with your intentions as bare as your asses. Or don't come at all.
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