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2 years ago. April 17, 2022 at 10:15 AM

This applies to men searching for a dominant partner but some principles might apply to the opposite gender.

 

Before contacting / replying to an ad or personal message from a dominant I recommend taking note of the following:

 

  • When was her account created? If she just made an account recently and she is messaging you/ posting ads, this might seem fishy.
  • Are the pictures on her profile real? You should try to reverse image search if they seem off. Yandex image search is a good engine for that. It seems to work better than google image search.
  • If she tells you to contact her outside thecage and provides you an username or phone number, google that info and see if it leads you somewhere.
  • Check the writing skills used in her profile, ad or message you received. Some of those ads/ about me page are really well written and often in a sensual way. Copy 1 or 2 sentences from there and google to see if that text appeared somewhere else such as a pro domme website. 
  • If she asks you in her ad to refer to her as "Mistress" keep it mind this might be suspicious. Majority would not want a  stranger call them like this at first.  
  • Which blogs does she follow? Does she blog? Does she follow anyone else in here?

After getting in contact:

  • Try having a casual conversation and avoid providing too many details about yourself early on. If she starts to refer to you as slave and has some demands then walk out.
  • How articulate are they in the conversations? If they claim to live in an English speaking country but their English is poor , that person is likely not even living in that country.

 

If somebody has some other suggestions feel free to enter them below.

ulfhednar{NO} - Comment deleted by poster.
2 years ago
Blondie​(sub female){Collared} - These are some good tips to spot some red flags. Thank you for sharing to keep others always thinking of their wellbeing and safety.
2 years ago
GiannaRay​(sub female) - This was great! Thank you for posting!
2 years ago
moll​(other female){owned slav} - I don't have any suggestions, but I like the fact that you took the time to post this. The number of posers and grifters on this site is overwhelming.
2 years ago
moll​(other female){owned slav} - Just thought of a warning: be weary of those who take issue with people posting warnings.

Warnings about posers, catfishing, trolls, etc are good things. The only people who take issue with warnings are the people who are more likely to be the ones you have to be weary about.

People who are looking for a real relationship in a BDSM dynamic, or on the internet in general, should have no problem being questioned about their sincerity and don't need tricks to find a like minded mate.

Their are grifters and trolls posing as Doms/Masters and sub/slaves and they have no problem preying on those looking for a real relationship.
2 years ago
moll​(other female){owned slav} - *There.

Damn I wish this site had an edit feature.
2 years ago
alawey​(sub female){(OWNED BY } - I agree with moll those looking for real should have no problem with things , such as vetting, asking for possible references, safety calls ( for meetings)
2 years ago
moll​(other female){owned slav} - To me that says that they are realistic, serious about a relationship, and intelligent.....some of my favorite qualities.
2 years ago

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