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Defining my role as a dominant

This is my written process of defining what being a dom means to me. All constructive feedback is welcome.
3 years ago. Monday, January 9, 2023 at 10:49 PM

My current relationship did not start out as a D/s relationship, but instead, it evolved over a few decades.  Therefore, I did not have to train a submissive in the same way as someone who is trying to get a submissive up to speed in a relatively short amount of time (a few years).

 

So the idea of punishment is still somewhat of an abstract concept, other than I know it is a tool to train.  Some articles that I have read suggest punishment should be used to help the trainee to remember her transgression through pain or isolation, while others are more nurturing (which would be my inclination).  [Note that all of the articles that I have read are strongly against abuse.]  All of the punishment is done with the idea of helping the submissive be submissive.  And I know that what is appropriate depends on the type of submissive (brat, little, rope bunny, ...) and the type of transgression.  

 

What I want to know is what has worked for you personally (as a Dom or a sub) and why?

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