I won’t be doing these everyday but for now, your stuck readin mwhahahahaha.
Hey guys, today, I’m feeling a bit thankful.
i want to explain why you should be learning and growing, by using my own reflections as an example. why? In my droves of experience (maybe a drove or -2), I have to remind myself often that i don’t know everything, and that’s true for everyone, so just cut people some slack and communicate.
I read a man’s profile, and he was explaining exactly what a dominant man should be like. He gave examples of what to look for in a good one, and what to look for in one that is looking for the wrong things.
it opened my eyes, big time. As far as I could tell, it was legit based on the research I have done. It was just the way it was written that made it click for me. I’m thankful for this gentleman’s profile.
While reading what a dominant man should be, in a backwards kinda way, I realized that I needed improvement on myself. I mean, I always feel the need to improve myself that’s part of who I am, but now I realize which area I should work on.
The little things that I want upfront from a possible Dom could appear as too eager just as it would appear with a Dom doing similar things. On the other hand a good man may take his time before even handing out any type of order because it’s about trust before expectations.
I do wonder if a real dominant will consider a sub who wants tiny tasks right away, or do they see a sub being too eager, too needy, too troublesome, or just plain exhausting? To push farther though, does this mean that this particular Dom wouldn’t be able to handle me in real life?
I can always admit I’m wrong, not in the middle of an argument sometimes, but that’s besides the point. I am here to say I think I was going about things the wrong way.
Admittedly I may be eager for the information. This does not mean that I want to jump straight into a full-on collared relationship right then and there. Yes, I do want a serious relationship, yes, I do want long-term and mostly 24/7, so if I see someone that is just looking for a plaything, I ignore it because it has no chance of going anywhere.
I just need to know where I stand, if we made it somewhere, would the Dom be able to handle me in the future. Are there future plans for the right one (which may not be me). I think this way about most things not just relationships.
For example, if I make these brownies that I know are delicious, knowing myself, would I share or would I eat them all? (then I go through the process of what happens in each situation.) well, if I chose to eat them all, that’s a gazillion calories, and I may earn myself a stomach ache. If I choose to share them, I won’t get as much as I want, but I may be making others happy and eating only a million calories.
I could ask many more questions but I’ll save you some brain cells.
Unfortunately, I am not a fly by the seat of my pants kind of gal even if I do want some adventure and to try new things. I need a solid bridge to bungee jump from if I don’t want to break my neck. I need to have details and organized at that. I try to be super efficient in many things that I do because honestly that’s just who I am.
Further, sometimes I just need clear boundaries that are set forth, because otherwise, I don’t know any better. I can’t play the game if I don’t know the rules. Boundaries like only text once a day, or if i ask a question, maybe it should be formatted a certain way. See? Nothing big, but is it the same as being too needy?
I want to be a good sub for a good Dom. How do I do that? I find someone who can help.
hook me up with any feedback please?
