Dirty Pretty Things

WhatamIfightingfor​(dom male){CurvyB} - A back story that contradicts iself, and has no sense if flow, working on word salad. Assuming the other person will just know, just know co es from years of experience, no 30 seconds of talking.

WhatamIfightingfor​(dom male){CurvyB} - Not being will to checking if they understand, just assuming. Never being accountable.

Heero​(dom male) - Ignoring, disregarding, or otherwise trying to get around consent.

This is a big one, and I think many of the issues faced by new subs especially is this or can be reframed as this. Some examples in the original post even, can be put under such an umbrella.

e.g. putting pressure on them to "convince" them you're a sub often means doing submissive things for them...before you're actually their submissive. It is the same as trying to get submission without consent. It's a bit of a grey area, but many times this is done very egregiously. Pushing for nudes when you already said you're not comfortable also fits here, etc. Many things do, and ultimately I think a LOT of posts here asking for advice can be fixed just by adhering to this principle: "My consent is paramount, and I do not have to do anything I do not want to do." Unsurprisingly, as they are often natural people pleasers, many subs seem unaware of this.

You don't need to do anything you don't want to do. And someone's opinion of you that you just met does not take precedence over your own consent.

Heero​(dom male) - I think the above should be a red flag for pretty much anyone (there may be a small fraction of people who would want to give away their consent unduly, but they should be aware of the risks when doing so...and ultimately, that is a level of consent also.)

Another red flag for me personally is being a poor communicator.

And not in the sense that I expect everyone to have perfect grammar or be supremely eloquent, but in the sense that they never try in the first place...like responding to a question with one word or a sentence when it clearly requires more. Not saying this makes someone a bad person, but it certainly makes them not a person for me. Not properly communicating has inherent and potentially very dangerous risks associated with it in this lifestyle. And I just find it annoying on a personal level :p

CageOwner​(dom male) - Regardless of gender or D/s etc.:

Unwilling to do a fake check after a reasonable amount of time.

Unwilling to show multiple photos after a reasonable amount of time.

Unwilling to add the occasional phone call or video chat after a reasonable amount of time.

I do stress the word reasonable and also fully understand that some may need more time than others but, from my experience, if someone wants to hide in the shadows forever usually “something is rotten in the state of Denmark” as my close friend William Shakespeare used to say. 😎

Literate Lycan​(dom male) - Not to dogpile on, but the reverse of “keeps trying to prove something (how experienced they are or rich)” - which is to keep trying to guttersnipe or disprove any other possible Dominants (they are not “twue” dominants or are homeless or bums).

TigerBDSM​(dom male){looking} - Sadly the BEST is the "perfect liar dom"
He has a tactical advantage over new and semi new females.
You JUST WANT TO BELIEVE. Yet he has no way to verify ANYTHING of value....just PRACTICED smooooth words and thoughts.
FORTUNATELY the game is ALWAYS short lived. Mostly due to an a constant new crop of unsuspecting females he can play games with and or he actually meets and VERY QUICKLY the lies become apparent. Fun MIGHT be had, but the boy is a fraud.
Oh...got to go now, my UFO has landed and off to somewhere....
Please be safe and ASK LOTS OF QUESTIONS and DEMAND verification. If someone is ACTUALLY successful at something he has a trail. Success AND failure leaves clues.
Have fun everyone!

Jack in the box -
They only seem available to talk to you certain times of day without any real explanation why

MDaddyForHer​(dom male) - Goes the other way too. Using Doms/Daddies. Only brief communication after, sporadic responses, disappearing for days or weeks.
Sudden ghosting. Feeling like being used for a quickie. Or seasonal fling.
So very tired of it all.

Sweet Minx​(sub female){NotLooking} - I didnt mean this list just for subs..really its for everyone.

MDaddyForHer​(dom male) - Oh I realize. Just a short commiseration. I feel for you. For many. Take care.

WhatamIfightingfor​(dom male){CurvyB} - This one takes a while to show up, forgetting or getting the person they are romantically involved with anther person. Forgetting during a conversation important things, things that are shared and private. I have in the past run into them confused with a person they are stalking. This causes all kinds of problems.