The Culture that has been here all the time

Yes, it is not easy to navigate life, no matter where you live or who you are. There are always existential challenges, need to coexist and survive. 

Since astute observation of human behavior supports the reality that we are social creatures with a need to belong, be loved, and experience friendship. The bugaboo is to what degree are we willing to compromise self, truth, and justice to achieve acceptance and security?

There are many "games" people engage in to achieve these goals: Charades, masquerades, go along to get along, support hate, invest in suspect ideologies, embed themselves in cult-like religions, but the most incedious is the arena of politics.

"Under every stone is a politician"  from one of Aristophanes' plays.

The worst cruelty I have learned has been perpetrated in the name of religion: Wars, inquisitions, ostracism, and even genocide.

Philosophers have written about the condition of humans and their behaviours, but I believe we fail to teach our children the lessons from the past and the wisdom that exists because we repeat the same mistakes humans have always made, even as of this writing.

I am tempted to conclude there is inherent evil in most, if not all, human beings. Some comic twists in this desire to belong to a group.

Laural and Harty had a short about this too.

The social need is combined with two other human needs: sexual and comfort (security).

When two people engage in close bodily contact, the very first need satisfied is comfort. Warm body contact is like a homecoming, and much of the trials and tribulations of the world around us fade away.

In combination or possibly in isolation, the sexual need is included in the intimate meeting of two people.

I reflect on the origin of life forms that need sexual contact to reproduce. This was the priority. With the evolution of life forms with two sexes for procreation, the comfort and security of establishing relationships followed. It is important because at this point, so much has evolved from this beginning that the simplicity has been overshadowed by culture and tradition.

In my current life, I care for my wife with dementia because I honor my commitment, and I do love her, but she can not offer me comfort and security, nor quench my sexual need. This is not as unique as some people may think.

Google AI Overview
Several animal species exhibit altruistic behaviors, caring for sick or injured individuals within their groups. Examples include primates like chimpanzees who use medicinal plants, and elephants who assist sick calves. Even insects like monarch butterflies have been observed to protect their offspring from infection by laying eggs on anti-parasitic plants. 

This intrinsic behavior contributes to the survival of a species, but I know it has rewards beyond this alone.  Self-worth and accomplishment provide the hormones of feeling well and love:  These include serotonin, dopamine, endorphins, and oxytocin. Nothing can replace this chemical reaction between lovers.

Some cultures openly acknowledge that sex workers are in their nation. Some are purely hypocritical while demonizing, making them illegal even as the elite members of society patronize them, especially in most of the USA. The longer I live, the more I see some pretty big lies denied in many so-called righteous places and by many self-proclaimed righteous people. While most men who use sex workers get a wink and a nod, many women get jailed, fined, and looked down upon.

It seems that in the ancient historical record, the sex workers were there. They fill a human need that has no other option. Men away from wives, wives seriously ill or injured, or unmarried men (including clergy) all have sexual needs. I have visited foreign lands where prostitution is legal, organized, and offers a means of retirement. Yes, even cultures heavily founded by Western religions have progressed to a more realistic position concerning the reality that sex workers exist..

In my younger days, before I married and during military service, I admit I patronized women sex workers - I even became fond of some.

When prostitution is legal, it is safer from a health care point of view, and it is safer for the workers as there are ways to counteract patrons with violent personalities who pose a normal risk in the business. All photos Pixabay.com Road sign, Impera Constacy, Red light districts 1 and 2

Of course, when we are just experiencing the world for the first time, we are almost constantly engaged with something new.

The thrill can be challenging to maintain, and sometimes it has some risk aspects.

The first time I saw the vastness of the ocean, it took my breath away. Even a large body of water like a bay or lake had a thrill about it.  Seeing the wide open spaces of the Midwest, the deserts of the West, and the mountains (especially the European Alps) fixed memories that seem as if they happened only yesterday.

Considering that humans as a whole like some level of exploration (maybe linked to the early days of human survival?), even if it is now a vacation, sheds some insight into relationships with the unknown. Exploration is in our DNA.

The religions I experienced reduce our relationships to forms of monogamy, even though I see much of that is a charade and hypocritical. Yes, a long-term relationship with one other person has many benefits and comforts, yet the yearning for change, variety, and newness often overrules this relationship.

Here in the BDSM world in general, some of the freer aspects of human nature can be experienced, artificial constraints and restrictions dropped in favor of what is normal and real for we humans.

Beyond this blog post is a vast body of information about the variety of and the possibilities of all sexual and platonic relationships between people. Explore web pages and the books that can enlighten you.

Every woman I knew taught me something. There was no room for egotistical arrogance with me. None of them I knew intimately were advanced in science and technology, but they still always offered something new for me to learn. This lesson helped to keep me humble and avoid disrespect for women and their qualities beyond sexual relationships with me.

Reality or myth?: "all night long"

Both. Depends on your definition and the limits most people have.

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AI Overview
The phrase "all night long" can refer to an extended period of time, often used to describe a romantic or sexual encounter. However, it's not necessarily meant to be taken literally as a constant physical activity.

What would your ideal world be if you could mold and shape the world you believe you live in?

Leonidas of Tarentum 290 - 220 B.C.

"...

15. Far from Italy, far from native Tarentum

      I lie, and this is the worst of it - worse than death.

      An exile's life is no life. But the Muses loved me.

     For my suffering, they gave me a honed gift:

     My name survives me. Thanks to the sweet Muses

     Leonidas will echo throughout all time.

16. The season of ships is here,

     The west wind and the swallows;

     Flowers in the fields appear,

     And the ocean of hills and hollows

     Has calmed its waves and is clear.

     Free that anchor and chain!

     Set your full canvas flying,

     O men in the harbor lane:

     It is I, Priapus, crying.

     Sail out on your trades again! ..."

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We make some things in our lives a priority and focus most of our attention on that (at least for a time).

Reflecting on my life, I see that I start to prioritize something, yet wind up shifting to a spin-off many times. This is exactly what happened when I became interested in Chess.

I became interested in the game of chess and started to study it when I decided to make a chessboard. I enjoy making things, whether an electronic kit, a scientific device, a garden, or a project with wood. The chessboard project became an obsession and devoured all my attention until it was complete, and then I went on to something else.

Yes, this is part of my Bipolar mental condition (I have come to know).

I have been my wife's only caregiver since the fall of 2017, and I only had a very brief reprieve (of sorts) a year ago now. 

If something happens to my wife, I plan to live the rest of my life without a partner; completely alone with my dogs and cat for as long as they stay alive.

I don't want to get to know about another woman's life and her family, too big a risk. I virtually live part of my life alone now, so it won't be a big change. My wife is barely a companion, though I still love her, but it is about the life we used to have, and my commitment to care for her.

Not much to say about the life I am living, and my family hasn't even checked on us for about two years now.

In all fairness to them, I do touch base with 3 of my 6 brothers on Facebook.