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The Culture that has been here all the time

When I was introduced to BDSM relationships, I realized they had existed probably for all of human history. Religion and Western Culture distort this and BDSM itself greatly, and if anything, an incredible hypocrisy is always present. Using codes and euphemisms, even denial can mask the fact that many people thrive within this often unrecognized subculture. For example, my wife had all the earmarks of a pleasure slave and was generally devoted and submissive to me. In times of marital friction, I often heard the words from a counselor, "She just wants you to love her." "Love her," I thought I was, and now I know without a doubt I need to be a Dominant, not some preconceived idea that we are to live as equals: we are not only one can be a Dom and one a sub at a time, but, it is perfectly fine if switching is desired at least now and then.
9 months ago. Wednesday, April 16, 2025 at 9:32 AM

As mentioned often, my wife was afflicted by early-onset Dementia in 2017, and her decline has been steady. My job as her only caregiver has been a great challenge, especially with her needing near-total care.

She can sort of eat food with help, and still can walk usually, but the single greatest difficulty is aphasia. Without normal conversation, I can never be certain she understands me. She will laugh at some of my off-beat humor at times and has moments where she will offer a kiss and a hug, and a garbled "I love you" - that is the extent of our intimacy.

I suppose I am too frail a human who craves more but I will not abandon her. I have learned to be a better caregiver and understand that a person affected by dementia, memory loss and aphasia can have short spans of lucidness, but there is no cure and no reversal of her condition.

I half jokingly say that cats, dogs, and humans can adapt to almost anything, and so it is with me. I have adapted.

There is only the slimmest chance for some semblance of a normal social life, as people do not know how to behave in my wife's presence, and I can not leave her alone.

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