Ginger's Nest

Heero​(dom male) - It's somewhat hard to say without knowing exactly *why* you feel this way. But I'd say the first thing would be to communicate how you're feeling to him. Going out and doing something else would only cover up the problem or take your mind off it.

OraclePollon​(sub female){NotYours} - Unfortunately you are seeing the side people pretend doesn't exist in that lifestyle. Talking about it is the only way to adjust. Trying to navigate together. It is one of the hardest things to be good and comfortable at/in poly in any capacity. It is the dark side that some people just ignore and makes poly a bad place that "kinksters" (or newly divorced men who think they can now go and have 3 girlfriends) flock to and abuse.

Don't let it deter you if you are truly interested in the lifestyle, but you (both of you) will need to be able to express these things to your partner (s) and continuously adjust your parameters and rules. (IMHO. Disclaimer, I am not poly)

Max Heathen​(other male) - As a Poly, I recommend being open and honest with you. Poly requires open communication and honesty with how you feel and why you feel that way. He may not realize the depth of what you are feeling. That's my recommendation. If he treats it dismissively then you have reason to truly question how he feels about you.

Max Heathen​(other male) - open and honest with HIM* Sorry, typo lol

little dragon​(sub female) - Thank you everyone. Your advice is helpful. I'm new to the true poly relationship style. I have grown a lot and become a LOT more vocal about feelings (eww lol) and what I need, but maybe I need to approach him in a different way 🤔

OraclePollon​(sub female){NotYours} - You can do it!! And it can be beautiful!

sir james ladies​(sub female){oh yes ple} - where to start? there are so many things not said in this blog. so I will start with the basics. first you start with the other sub and talk it all out with them. this Should have been done in the very beginning even before the Dom was involved. do you all live together? Is that what you eventually want it to go to? what are you both looking for in your Dom? once you figure out what you both want from him you can start to work together to meet your needs together. he is only one Dom trying to care for two subs this in itself is hard but if the sub's cant work together to make it easier on him in this case I do not see things getting any easier for the three of you. if you can send me a mail and we will try to help the three of you get through this. remember it is really about you all getting what you need.

little dragon​(sub female) - @Sir James ladies, unfortunately I'm not a premium member sobi can't message you.
His other sub is extremely new to the scene, he is her first dom and partner other than her husband. We do not live together and he actually lives 150km away from us, so he gets very little time while he's here. Right now I am very happy living alone, and I don't see it going that way.
He also has a few play partners that he sees once in awhile. A couple of them I have become friends with and we hang out platonically.

sir james ladies​(sub female){oh yes ple} - oh I see he is more a protector helping you to learn the ropes so to speak. in this case I would advise that you keep looking and find a play partner as well. keep in mind that you should clear this with him. as your protector he should be willing to interview your potential play partners. that way you can still feel some safety in further explorations of the sub side as well as the poly feelings you may have.

AdamDragon​(dom male) - This is a very good post.
As a Poly Master and House I have to agree with the ladies. But remember there are different levels of poly. Be sure to address the one that fits you and your dynamic best. There has to be more communication than ever before between everyone. And it can not be forced. If one or the other isn’t comfortable or in the same page it just doesn’t work. Transparency is prudent here. So be sure to ask and respond openly with no sugar coating. Good luck and hope you find that middle ground.

TigerBDSM​(dom male){looking} - Street creed...9 years of 2 slaves that were live in poly and many more years with one live in slave and ongoing extended stay guest slaves.
Just my view...
Poly, the lifestyle, eating that favorite dish for the first time...they all have a special place.
NOW just my opinion and what worked for me, the leader MUST LEAD.
The world's best leader ever, probably had some missteps early on. Then became better and better and better.
However some are so so, and when the newness of they leadership and or the situation becomes no longer new (The FERRARI, is now just a car) things begin to look differently.
Then is when the leader shines. They step up and lead.
OR
Their followers move on.
My failure in my first few attempts of me and two girls as a teenager were terrible. I has no idea of how to manage the arrangement. Yes, they helped make it fun, but my inabilities to manage and lead our fun time lead to a one and only time with them.
Failed again twice. All together , having fun, then one and done.
By accident I read something about parents with twins. How to manage that.....
Success takes many things. Abilities are important, however a VERY average person can run circles around someone with only abilities if they have specific knowledge about the events at hand. Yes, those with skills AND knowledge have a higher propensity of success then the majority (but they are rare).
Now my thoughts on poly.
For MOST it is new to them, either a sexual fantasy or fun with more than just two. What is important is making sure everyone feels part of the whole. Jealousy happens and without taking the proper measures to mitigate or eliminate that feeling, failure is assured.
Sure the subby will worship her God, until she does not.
Poly takes more than just being horney...it takes mental effort AND CONTINUOUSLY.
Find the correct ingredients and MAGIC happens. Attempt to get lucky with your pics and expect a few fun times, then...what the hell happened?!

TigerBDSM​(dom male){looking} - ADDENDUM.
I guess it shows my age..LOL...call me an oldtimer, bozo, whatever...
Poly for me is more than two people who interact TOGETHER.
Yes, all the scholars will correct me on what means what AND they are correct.
Seeking more than one person, from my POV is just dating..When done well EVERYONE is happy, when done poorly....well you know.

little dragon​(sub female) - Haha yes, yes i do know

TigerBDSM​(dom male){looking} - Hoping for success.
Have meaningful conversations with him. Success can be as simple as sharing your thoughts.